They get to be affraid that their rocket won't launch!What is a midlife crisis when a married man searches for sex outside marriage?
This is not a midlife crisis. Tons of men and woman look outside the relationship for things to spice up the relationship when they are interested in more than what they have. Finding other couples or another person could actually help your marriage. Have you talked to your wife about it? You could ask her thoughts about trying something with another person or couple. There are plenty of sites to meet people of any age including your own and they are as interested in it as you are. Maybe you and your wife can check out others profile, pictures, talk to them, etc. to see you are not alone and try something new.
The long view seems a particularly hard concept for men to understand. Men are such fragile creatures. They lack self esteem, they fear the inevitable failures of old age, and they like to place the blame on innocent parties, like wives and children. They seem to have a serious case of character wavering in midlife. It's pitiful, actually.
Midlife = you realize you're getting older, not younger. You start to have some nagging doubts about your body, life, etc. What could be more validation for some people than being found attractive and having great sex? Even for singles, when you find someone who finds you attractive enough to have sex, it's a self esteem boost. The other factor is the man is likely bored with his wife. Morally, it isn't right or just, but real. How I wish that the women who had sex with married men would get married %26amp; have it done to them. Instant karma.
People, not just men, have times in their lives when they realize on a visceral level that life is passing at an incredible rate and will soon be over. They look back and think of all the dreams and goals they had that are never going to be realized, they wonder if they have really spent their time wisely, and they don't want the remaining time they have to slip through their fingers. They don't want to get old and die, they want to be young and live.
Things like sports cars and other toys desired in youth, a quest for social status that they never found, working out and doing other things to look younger etc. are all attempts to fulfill early life ambitions and to feel younger again. lovers, especially younger lovers fulfill this goal more perhaps than anything. The reasoning is that 'If people are attracted to me I must be attractive and therefore not too old.'
There's another aspect to it all as well. Besides giving the feeling of being young and the illusion of chasing off the grim reaper a lover can ad a sense of danger and adventure. By the time a person reaches midlife their lives have become rather boring usually. Illicit contact is a sure cure for boredom and the blues. I'm not suggesting that anybody engage in such activity, and I haven't myself, but lets face it, anybody who says they don't harbor at least a little desire for such an adventure is lying.
And finally, facing the grim reaper we realize that the party will be ending soon, and we're getting older and uglyer with each passing day and one day it will be too late. It's kind of like when the bartender says ';last call';. If you don't grab a drink now you're never going to get one. Mid life is last call on a lot of things, not just pretty young girls and boys. People hitting mid life get hit with a flood of emotions, desires and fears and usualy make fools of themselves in the process, but oh well, that's better than not even trying.
So that's it in a nutshell, I hope that helps you understand, and I encourage all people to be understanding and giving when dealing with people who are facing midlife, because one day you'll be there too and you'll wish people would understand you and help you instead of getting in your way and telling you to stop acting silly. It's your last chance to act silly darn it!
not really its just nature in action. its more of a character weakness than a crisis.
I've know serial adulterers who are incapable of fidelity yet love their wives dearly and have no with to end the relationship but just like sex, lots of it.
The cause is an explosion of the moron nerve endings fighting with the ticking of the clock.
He's out to prove that he can still 'pull' a woman. Most likely, he starting to have a hard time getting it 'up' so he'll go for something different or exciting.
It's a search for acceptance and validation they are still desired by other women...... ego
Women go through it too ....
The human experience.
they're afraid of dying. seriously
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