The divorce rates are so high because it's so easy to get one. If it was more difficult to get out of marriage then people would be more inclined to take a longer look before jumping into one.Is the reason that divorce rates are so high because people feel a societal obligation to get married?
Actually divorce rates are starting to decrease in recent years! They did dramatically rise in the 80's early 90's, but a lot of the research is suggesting it's from those that rushed marriage after the second world war as well as the feminism wave. From the data people are waiting longer to get married and have children than ever before, suggesting that it's the opposite. Sure people can jump in and settle down quickly, but that's always happened throughout history, less so today. It's more to do with an individuals personality, maturity and experience. I would say this is getting better. Today, by societies standard, you don't need to be married; at least in comparison to the past. As well as bettering education, this problem is decreasing. And if you look at the divorce rates, only 2% of marriages end in divorce each year!! The expectancy of a marriage is about 25 years on average (statistically; deaths etc), that 50% comes from taking the 2% risk every year and multiplying it by the expected life of a marriage, equaling 50%..... So no, i don't agree.
No, I think the divorce rates are so high, because no one (obviously generalized) wants to make the sustained effort that marriage can take. People are less likely to be willing to make the sacrifices that can come with being married. Obviously there are those who suffer abuse, but I think the majority of people out there are only looking out for themselves and when they realize they're expected to do things that are uncomfortable and self-sacrificing, they decide it's not worth the effort to them.
The divorce rate is so high because people are unwilling to sacrifice within marriage. Individualism is a problem in our society and people are selfish. Many people treat relationships and marriage like everything is disposable. If a person has the attitude that a relationship is disposable it's impossible to truly love someone. Many people say that you need to do whatever makes you happy. Some things in life are challenging and not always pleasant. Overcoming obstacles can make a relationship stronger but people need to stay together. People often leave when anything is unpleasant or difficult.
Societal? Is that really a word?
Anyway, I have no idea why divorce rates are so high. It's a shame to say the least. I think you're right though about people just settling for someone. Instead of getting to know that someone and really search their heart to find out if they are truly in love with that person.
I do know that people change and even the couple can change and start regretting what they have done as far as getting married. They grow apart those who divorce. For one reason or another they don't really try to work out their marriage even the ones who are in love with their spouse.
No one ever really know's who their partner is. they think they might, but they never will.
I think divorice is through the roof is because the youngish generations getting married now have been spoiled rotten growing up and think they should get everything. They don't think of others, only their greedy thoughts.
Then along comes someone attractive and they think they deserve to sleep around an cheat on their partner because well they are selfish and think the world revolves around them.
They don't care if they get divoriced, they're so self centred they tell themselves, oh well, I can find another girl any day.
I think divorce rates are high b/c it's extremely easy to obtain. People can get a divorce for basically any reason. Even if one spouse doesn't want a divorce, they have no say after voluntary/involuntary separation period. I believe in it were more difficult to obtain a divorce...less people would jump into marriage. Personally, I know I loved my spouse but in the back of my mind I always knew divorce was an option if things didn't work out (which probably isn't right but it's the truth).
yes you are so so right and it ends up ruining so many lives.........and even children who are born from such marriages............but thats life....
if there were no arranged marriage there would not be so many arranged married couples who are so perfect for each other.......and we would also not have the bless of love marriages too........and there are many of us who do believe in the niceness and tradition of arranged marriage even though it has ruined many............every coin has two sides you know!!
you know, i think you have a very valid point there. seems like people in general can't understand why someone would prefer to be alone or unattached. i went through a long time with everyone trying to ';fix me up'; and finally had to be rude and ignorant to put it to a stop.
p.s. her fergy, if you are so worried about whether something is a word or not buy a goda---- dictonERY ARY IRY
no the ';societal obligation'; used to be way higher and the divorce rate was much lower it's just a current trend and deemphasis on the importance of marriage and the sanctity of that
i think it does have allot to do with not really knowing the person well and having certain expectations that don't get met. u think u know the person and find out later u really never knew them at all.
Actually fewer people a are getting married that ever before. The divorce rate is high because people are selfish and lazy (exceptions made to cheating and abuse).
True 'cause I'm in that situation right now. Sometimes you need to wait and see if that will be there (LOVE) But alot just jump into it do just say they are married. But sometimes love will go on a person
I truly believe that too many people don't believe in working together as a team to succeed.
l think you have hit the mark....
lt's either that...or they do not take the commitment of marriage seriously enough to make it work.
I totally agree
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