some people decide to get married within a week or a month, others within a year or two. still others can't figure it out 10 years later. it's just gonna depend on what's right for you. don't lay into her with marriage until you are sure that you two are on the same page.
you can talk with her about marriage in general, and ask her what she's looking for. she may appreciate you letting her know what you would like to see happen in your future, in general.
but just don't assume (or give her the idea that you presume) that she's gonna be the one woman in your future. that kind of heavy-handedness is going to push her away. just try to be friends, and have fun with her. be in the moment, not trying to plan your retirement together... enjoy her, allow her to enjoy you without pressure.
then as time goes on, feel free to talk with her specifically about your future together. but for now, seeing as you haven't even gone out yet, just keep it light-hearted, and save the heavier stuff for later on, ok?How long would people date before they get married?
it depends on the people involved.
I've known people that got serious about one another as soon as 2-3 weeks of dating and others as long as 3+ years of dating.
it all depends on you and what you're feeling.
There's not a deadline in this. There are couples that marry after 10 years of dating and others that after 2 weeks are already husband and wife.
till your heart tells you itis okay
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