LUKE: 20:
34 Jesus said to them, 鈥淭he people of this age marry and are given in marriage. 20:35 But those who are regarded as worthy to share in that age and in the resurrection from the dead neither marry nor are given in marriageIs marriage an obstruction to be worthy?Are those who married not entitled for resurrection?
Jesus contrasted like in the current age with life in the age to come. Because marriage will not be a part of the age to come, the Sadducees' absurd example (verses 28-33) does not apply. Jesus upheld the doctrine of resurrection in His reply, speaking of both the age to come and the resurrection, so that the two concepts were clearly associated. Jesus also noted that only those counted worthy would receive the benefits of the age to come.Is marriage an obstruction to be worthy?Are those who married not entitled for resurrection?
No, you've misunderstood. Go back and re-read verse 33:
33 ';Therefore, in the resurrection, whose wife does she become?';
The QUESTION asked of Jesus was ';when the resurrection of the dead happens during the Messianic Age, who will she be married to?';
Jesus responded by explaining that, in THIS Age, people in their natural bodies marry one another. But after they die and are resurrected, they will not be in the flesh, they will be GREATER than flesh beings. Therefore, marriage is not applicable to them, since it is a human institution only.
No, marriage is not an obstruction to worthiness. None of us is worthy, except by the grace of God, of the new life we will experience in the age of the resurrection which will not include a desire to marry. God bless.
Tuesday, August 24, 2010
How come Black guys don't respect that I am married to a White man?
I am a Black lady and a lot of Black guys give me a hard time because I married a White man. They won't say anything to him because my husband is a body builder and he is 6'6'; and about 255.How come Black guys don't respect that I am married to a White man?
Because they are full of s***. They feel they're the only ones who can date white women but want to regulate who black women date.How come Black guys don't respect that I am married to a White man?
I think you just answered yourself. The problem is respect. They don't want to give it to you, so you shouldn't give it to them by paying any attention to what they say.
it's a double standard thing. they can date latina women white women . etc now a days there isnt Much black women in the music video's there are so quick to put a white or spanish chick in their video's i dont see justin timberlake with any latina or black girl in his video. but as soon as another guy aprreaciates you. they try to make you feel guilty. '; why didnt you marry a brotha';
Stupid train wrecks can't even respect themselves. Ask yourself why they kill their brothas on the streets over drugs and run away from their responsibility like little boys.
your not black
your not married
your dont have a bodybuilder husband
your lieing.
Because it's not the norm. People are always critical of things that are different. And plus, most people are attracted to their own race above all else, so they won't understand why you didn't marry a black man, and married a white man instead.
Also, whites and blacks have a horrible history that many people have not forgotten, on both sides. Tensions between the two groups aren't going to help, either.
Because they are full of s***. They feel they're the only ones who can date white women but want to regulate who black women date.How come Black guys don't respect that I am married to a White man?
I think you just answered yourself. The problem is respect. They don't want to give it to you, so you shouldn't give it to them by paying any attention to what they say.
it's a double standard thing. they can date latina women white women . etc now a days there isnt Much black women in the music video's there are so quick to put a white or spanish chick in their video's i dont see justin timberlake with any latina or black girl in his video. but as soon as another guy aprreaciates you. they try to make you feel guilty. '; why didnt you marry a brotha';
Stupid train wrecks can't even respect themselves. Ask yourself why they kill their brothas on the streets over drugs and run away from their responsibility like little boys.
your not black
your not married
your dont have a bodybuilder husband
your lieing.
Because it's not the norm. People are always critical of things that are different. And plus, most people are attracted to their own race above all else, so they won't understand why you didn't marry a black man, and married a white man instead.
Also, whites and blacks have a horrible history that many people have not forgotten, on both sides. Tensions between the two groups aren't going to help, either.
Can you be married over a long distance?
Can two people get married without actually being physically together during the marriage? For example, can the marriage licence be mailed to one person so they can sign it, and then mailed back to the judge? Or is there another way of doing this?Can you be married over a long distance?
No..you have to be physically present for a Justice of a Peace to verify who you are and say that you two were in fact the ones getting married.
The problem with what you are describing is what if someone steals someones ID or is a stalker. They could, in theory , marry someone without the other person knowing if they stole the other person's personal ID.
If you thought someone stealing your ID to run up a credit card is bad...think of how bad it would be to find out one day that you are legally married and being divorced for half of everything you own. Or your income tax refund being cashed in by your ';new spouse'; after they file a joint income tax return with your name on it.
Lots of bad things can happen if two people aren't there in person to be verify everything.Can you be married over a long distance?
Oh, probably, somewhere. You would have to check the laws of solemnizing a marriage in the relevant jurisdiction BUT make sure the solemnization is recognized in the place you each of you intends to live or you will have a conflict of laws case that will keep attys humming and billing you for years!
No. You must be physically standing next to each other during the ceremony. You can't get married through the mail, why would you want to?
its impossible
why the hell would you want to do that? No i dont think its legal
why the hell would you want to do that
No..you have to be physically present for a Justice of a Peace to verify who you are and say that you two were in fact the ones getting married.
The problem with what you are describing is what if someone steals someones ID or is a stalker. They could, in theory , marry someone without the other person knowing if they stole the other person's personal ID.
If you thought someone stealing your ID to run up a credit card is bad...think of how bad it would be to find out one day that you are legally married and being divorced for half of everything you own. Or your income tax refund being cashed in by your ';new spouse'; after they file a joint income tax return with your name on it.
Lots of bad things can happen if two people aren't there in person to be verify everything.Can you be married over a long distance?
Oh, probably, somewhere. You would have to check the laws of solemnizing a marriage in the relevant jurisdiction BUT make sure the solemnization is recognized in the place you each of you intends to live or you will have a conflict of laws case that will keep attys humming and billing you for years!
No. You must be physically standing next to each other during the ceremony. You can't get married through the mail, why would you want to?
its impossible
why the hell would you want to do that? No i dont think its legal
why the hell would you want to do that
Is their any decent priced places that we can get married at around Cambridge Ontario?
We are in need of a place to be married at around Cambridge and surrounding area. I have called many different places and the average price is $600 however I believe that is an outrageous price for just a half hour. Can someone help me please!Is their any decent priced places that we can get married at around Cambridge Ontario?
I live down by Sarnia Ontario- but have you tried city parks- they are usually quite cheap (we are paying $120 for our wedding at the park) or maybe a family members backyard (free!)... If you are having a 20 minute wedding or less then people can stand and you only need a few chairs for any elderly guests...
I live down by Sarnia Ontario- but have you tried city parks- they are usually quite cheap (we are paying $120 for our wedding at the park) or maybe a family members backyard (free!)... If you are having a 20 minute wedding or less then people can stand and you only need a few chairs for any elderly guests...
I have a financial aid question about when you get married?
This year i will be getting married in July and currently my efc is 2203 and hers EFC is 10100. We are both enrolled in college right now , she is getting her Masters in Social Work and I am working to towards my Associates in Commnity College then hopefully transfer the last 2 years in a university. I would like to know what happens when we get married, will it affect me getting federal aide after we have our incomes combined? Thanks for anyones help.I have a financial aid question about when you get married?
Yes it will. My husband has been in college for a majority of the 2 years we have been married. Although we didn't know our EFC scores before, we have not yet qualified for any aid from the government. I just recieved my FAFSA results because I will be starting school in the summer and once again we I didn't qualify for anything. I always heard getting married helps you get more aid, well I must be doing something wrong then because the only way we can afford college is by student loans. I wish you both well and I hope that your college journey and your marriage are a happy one.
TIP: I recently scored a 5807 for my EFC and that was still too high for free money.I have a financial aid question about when you get married?
It depends on how old you are. If you and she are still going by your parents income and do not work, then it will probably help you get more financial aid. However, if this is your personal EFC from your income and her EFC from her income... then combining the two incomes will probably make you not get as much financial aid. If you or her don't have a high personal income (%26gt;30k) then you will get more money.
For example, if you make 10,000 and she makes 20,000 then they will combine the two incomes and you will get less money. But if you don't work and she doesn't work... then you will get full financial aid.
Also, this will not happen until you do your tax returns for next year. So if your getting married in 2008 the your financial aid will not change until the 2009 - 2010 school year.makeup online
Yes it will. My husband has been in college for a majority of the 2 years we have been married. Although we didn't know our EFC scores before, we have not yet qualified for any aid from the government. I just recieved my FAFSA results because I will be starting school in the summer and once again we I didn't qualify for anything. I always heard getting married helps you get more aid, well I must be doing something wrong then because the only way we can afford college is by student loans. I wish you both well and I hope that your college journey and your marriage are a happy one.
TIP: I recently scored a 5807 for my EFC and that was still too high for free money.I have a financial aid question about when you get married?
It depends on how old you are. If you and she are still going by your parents income and do not work, then it will probably help you get more financial aid. However, if this is your personal EFC from your income and her EFC from her income... then combining the two incomes will probably make you not get as much financial aid. If you or her don't have a high personal income (%26gt;30k) then you will get more money.
For example, if you make 10,000 and she makes 20,000 then they will combine the two incomes and you will get less money. But if you don't work and she doesn't work... then you will get full financial aid.
Also, this will not happen until you do your tax returns for next year. So if your getting married in 2008 the your financial aid will not change until the 2009 - 2010 school year.
Is it normal to masturbate a lot when you're married and have sex a lot?
I have sex with my wife at least 2 times a day. But I masturbate about 3 times a day its just a lot faster and less work than having sex. Before I met her I used to masturbate for people I met online through msn messenger (i still do if you are interested ;) ) I don't feel guilty for it, it actually makes it really exciting.Is it normal to masturbate a lot when you're married and have sex a lot?
It's normal to masterbate alot whether you are married or not. Thanks for the IM invite, but definetly not interested. I'm sure this question was posted so you can get some action. Didn't work with me, but good luck.
P.S. If I had someone physically there to fulfill my needs, I wouldn't need IM. Maybe you need to work on your bedroom activities with the wife.Is it normal to masturbate a lot when you're married and have sex a lot?
Well, Mr Anonymous, private questions, signed up today, sounds like you are simply looking for someone to have IM sex with.
There is no abnormal amount of masturbation and it's a shame that your sex with your wife it too much work.
But fear not, I'm sure she's masturbating on line with other people as well.
First don't do it online anymore because if she finds out you are gonna be sooo BUSTED, and I think that it's normal to still do it even if you are married.
I do sometimes, but not as often as I did when I was dating.
It's normal to masterbate alot whether you are married or not. Thanks for the IM invite, but definetly not interested. I'm sure this question was posted so you can get some action. Didn't work with me, but good luck.
P.S. If I had someone physically there to fulfill my needs, I wouldn't need IM. Maybe you need to work on your bedroom activities with the wife.Is it normal to masturbate a lot when you're married and have sex a lot?
Well, Mr Anonymous, private questions, signed up today, sounds like you are simply looking for someone to have IM sex with.
There is no abnormal amount of masturbation and it's a shame that your sex with your wife it too much work.
But fear not, I'm sure she's masturbating on line with other people as well.
First don't do it online anymore because if she finds out you are gonna be sooo BUSTED, and I think that it's normal to still do it even if you are married.
I do sometimes, but not as often as I did when I was dating.
Is it better to live with a woman married or unmarried?
I know its not right in Gods eyes but I want to see if it can work out first and I'm enaged to her. I'm having second thoughts.Is it better to live with a woman married or unmarried?
Rutgers University Study - Should We Live Together?
Cohabiting couples breakup three times more than married couples. Cohabiting couples that later marry have a 46% higher rate of divorce than those who did not cohabit prior to marriage.
http://marriage.rutgers.edu/Publications鈥?/a>
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I believe that everyone that contemplates marriage should live together for a spell first... even if you choose not to have sex, living together allows you to really see all of the facets of this person.
Dating allows people to put their best face on, their best foot forward, at some point you have to see people as they really are on a day to day basis.... and if then you still feel the love and attraction, then you know you might have found what you are looking for.
My wife is a staunch Catholic girl and even we lived together for 8 months before we married. (No sex either!)
We got to know each other, to learn from each other, to work out dumb little things, sort out squabbles and petty annoyances... all before the big day. It was such a special time.. It was kind of like playing house... each of us learning what it meant to be there for someone for the first time in our lives. That was so long ago but the experience only made the foundation that our marriage is built upon all the stronger...I love her more every day... soul-mates.
Marry her and you'll regret it the rest of your life.
If you must marry someone for the purposes of children, go to a third world country where the women will actually appreciate you. Marrying a western girl is worse than sticking your head in the microwave and cooking for 45 minutes.
Ask Her how she feels. In SOME cases it's ok. (like mine:)
We do it because: I am epileptic and have serious health problems sometimes.He has no insurance, and so I have a better chance just not being legally married. We are in our hearts. So, financial reasons for some. If no reasons...you have to ask yourself why? Is it because you think ';it'; will end. Or NOW your grown up. DONT loose a chance in life you deserve, and dont lead her on.Friendship is what its mainly about, if shes your best friend...your all good. If far from it, run.
married in the eyes of god
that s the right way
and that s what would make her happy
don t be scared ,don t have kids too soon wait a year or two,to see how things are going,so if you ever don t like her you can get a divorce.
I wouldn't move in with my guy until we had a wedding date set. However, there is no requirement to live with someone before you get married. What are you going to do if she says no before the wedding? End the engagement?
If you live with her you might figure out if you want to marry her or not.
If you marry in SOME countries there are tax breaks, but also the risk of divorce. It isnt a black and white question.
They sleep the same way married or not.
Wait until you're married. :)
if your having second thoughts dont get married
Rutgers University Study - Should We Live Together?
Cohabiting couples breakup three times more than married couples. Cohabiting couples that later marry have a 46% higher rate of divorce than those who did not cohabit prior to marriage.
http://marriage.rutgers.edu/Publications鈥?/a>
\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\Is it better to live with a woman married or unmarried?
I believe that everyone that contemplates marriage should live together for a spell first... even if you choose not to have sex, living together allows you to really see all of the facets of this person.
Dating allows people to put their best face on, their best foot forward, at some point you have to see people as they really are on a day to day basis.... and if then you still feel the love and attraction, then you know you might have found what you are looking for.
My wife is a staunch Catholic girl and even we lived together for 8 months before we married. (No sex either!)
We got to know each other, to learn from each other, to work out dumb little things, sort out squabbles and petty annoyances... all before the big day. It was such a special time.. It was kind of like playing house... each of us learning what it meant to be there for someone for the first time in our lives. That was so long ago but the experience only made the foundation that our marriage is built upon all the stronger...I love her more every day... soul-mates.
Marry her and you'll regret it the rest of your life.
If you must marry someone for the purposes of children, go to a third world country where the women will actually appreciate you. Marrying a western girl is worse than sticking your head in the microwave and cooking for 45 minutes.
Ask Her how she feels. In SOME cases it's ok. (like mine:)
We do it because: I am epileptic and have serious health problems sometimes.He has no insurance, and so I have a better chance just not being legally married. We are in our hearts. So, financial reasons for some. If no reasons...you have to ask yourself why? Is it because you think ';it'; will end. Or NOW your grown up. DONT loose a chance in life you deserve, and dont lead her on.Friendship is what its mainly about, if shes your best friend...your all good. If far from it, run.
married in the eyes of god
that s the right way
and that s what would make her happy
don t be scared ,don t have kids too soon wait a year or two,to see how things are going,so if you ever don t like her you can get a divorce.
I wouldn't move in with my guy until we had a wedding date set. However, there is no requirement to live with someone before you get married. What are you going to do if she says no before the wedding? End the engagement?
If you live with her you might figure out if you want to marry her or not.
If you marry in SOME countries there are tax breaks, but also the risk of divorce. It isnt a black and white question.
They sleep the same way married or not.
Wait until you're married. :)
if your having second thoughts dont get married
How did Lois Lane and Clark Kent get married?
When did this happen in the comic series? When did it happen in the movies? Where there complications leading up to it?
Also, if you can direct me to any issues of the comic, or any websites that cover the whole build up to their marriage, that would be so great.
Thank you very much.How did Lois Lane and Clark Kent get married?
They got married in Superman the wedding album, when Superman had lost his powers as a result of the Final Night storyline/miniseries. On the tv series, they got married but Lois was a clone, then finally got married for real in an episode by an angel (i think). All their friend were there but weren't sure how they got there. During the honeymoon they went into the old west, where Clark was a lone ranger type of character. They haven't gotten married in the movies, or on the cartoon. You might check out wikipedia. Hope this helps.
Also, if you can direct me to any issues of the comic, or any websites that cover the whole build up to their marriage, that would be so great.
Thank you very much.How did Lois Lane and Clark Kent get married?
They got married in Superman the wedding album, when Superman had lost his powers as a result of the Final Night storyline/miniseries. On the tv series, they got married but Lois was a clone, then finally got married for real in an episode by an angel (i think). All their friend were there but weren't sure how they got there. During the honeymoon they went into the old west, where Clark was a lone ranger type of character. They haven't gotten married in the movies, or on the cartoon. You might check out wikipedia. Hope this helps.
Filing married but seperately this year, would we be able to file jointly in the future?
me and my husband have been filing our taxes jointly for 4 yrs now. this yr looks like will be getting more of a refund if we file seperately. will this affect us in any way later on?
would we be able to file jointly next yr if we decide to again?
both of our W2 are pretty basic, no dependents to claim, no additional form, deductions, or exclusions. just reporting our Income....Filing married but seperately this year, would we be able to file jointly in the future?
you should be getting a bigger refund by filing jointly - you better have someone double check your returns - are you checking the correct column on the tax tables? - you can't use the married joint column- Married separate taxes income a higher level than joint - I've never heard of anyone getting a bigger refund by filing separately - especially if they are basic returns - doesn't make sense - You can't file as single, you realize that - if you're married - married sep or marr-joint are your only 2 options.
in answer to your second question you can switch back and forth whenever you want, but there is no benefit to filing separatelyFiling married but seperately this year, would we be able to file jointly in the future?
I find it very strange that your would fair better as MFS rather than MFJ. MFJ is the best (lowest) tax rate. As MFS, both are similar to filing Single, and as MFS you forfeit any claim to some of the credits that are beneficial.
But if you still file MFS, you can switch to MFJ next year or any other year.
No, each tax year stands on its own. You can switch back and forth from one year to the next, whatever works out best for you.
Do check both of your returns carefully, though! It's unusual though not impossible for you to pay less tax on separate returns. But if it works out better for you that way then by all means do so.
It depends on what state you are in if you are doing it correctly. If you are in a community property state you must add together both your incomes and divide by 2 to get your total wages. In this case, filing separately doesnt usually make sense.
would we be able to file jointly next yr if we decide to again?
both of our W2 are pretty basic, no dependents to claim, no additional form, deductions, or exclusions. just reporting our Income....Filing married but seperately this year, would we be able to file jointly in the future?
you should be getting a bigger refund by filing jointly - you better have someone double check your returns - are you checking the correct column on the tax tables? - you can't use the married joint column- Married separate taxes income a higher level than joint - I've never heard of anyone getting a bigger refund by filing separately - especially if they are basic returns - doesn't make sense - You can't file as single, you realize that - if you're married - married sep or marr-joint are your only 2 options.
in answer to your second question you can switch back and forth whenever you want, but there is no benefit to filing separatelyFiling married but seperately this year, would we be able to file jointly in the future?
I find it very strange that your would fair better as MFS rather than MFJ. MFJ is the best (lowest) tax rate. As MFS, both are similar to filing Single, and as MFS you forfeit any claim to some of the credits that are beneficial.
But if you still file MFS, you can switch to MFJ next year or any other year.
No, each tax year stands on its own. You can switch back and forth from one year to the next, whatever works out best for you.
Do check both of your returns carefully, though! It's unusual though not impossible for you to pay less tax on separate returns. But if it works out better for you that way then by all means do so.
It depends on what state you are in if you are doing it correctly. If you are in a community property state you must add together both your incomes and divide by 2 to get your total wages. In this case, filing separately doesnt usually make sense.
How long would people date before they get married?
Here I am. 30 years old and still no first date. But talking to a very beautiful woman about my age and wondering how long would people date before they start to get serious.How long would people date before they get married?
some people decide to get married within a week or a month, others within a year or two. still others can't figure it out 10 years later. it's just gonna depend on what's right for you. don't lay into her with marriage until you are sure that you two are on the same page.
you can talk with her about marriage in general, and ask her what she's looking for. she may appreciate you letting her know what you would like to see happen in your future, in general.
but just don't assume (or give her the idea that you presume) that she's gonna be the one woman in your future. that kind of heavy-handedness is going to push her away. just try to be friends, and have fun with her. be in the moment, not trying to plan your retirement together... enjoy her, allow her to enjoy you without pressure.
then as time goes on, feel free to talk with her specifically about your future together. but for now, seeing as you haven't even gone out yet, just keep it light-hearted, and save the heavier stuff for later on, ok?How long would people date before they get married?
it depends on the people involved.
I've known people that got serious about one another as soon as 2-3 weeks of dating and others as long as 3+ years of dating.
it all depends on you and what you're feeling.
There's not a deadline in this. There are couples that marry after 10 years of dating and others that after 2 weeks are already husband and wife.
till your heart tells you itis okaymakeup online
some people decide to get married within a week or a month, others within a year or two. still others can't figure it out 10 years later. it's just gonna depend on what's right for you. don't lay into her with marriage until you are sure that you two are on the same page.
you can talk with her about marriage in general, and ask her what she's looking for. she may appreciate you letting her know what you would like to see happen in your future, in general.
but just don't assume (or give her the idea that you presume) that she's gonna be the one woman in your future. that kind of heavy-handedness is going to push her away. just try to be friends, and have fun with her. be in the moment, not trying to plan your retirement together... enjoy her, allow her to enjoy you without pressure.
then as time goes on, feel free to talk with her specifically about your future together. but for now, seeing as you haven't even gone out yet, just keep it light-hearted, and save the heavier stuff for later on, ok?How long would people date before they get married?
it depends on the people involved.
I've known people that got serious about one another as soon as 2-3 weeks of dating and others as long as 3+ years of dating.
it all depends on you and what you're feeling.
There's not a deadline in this. There are couples that marry after 10 years of dating and others that after 2 weeks are already husband and wife.
till your heart tells you itis okay
What is the best cheapest beach to get married on that you don't need a passport to get to?
I want to get married on a beach somewhere. I was wondering if anyone had suggestions on where is the cheapest place to go but will still be a great experience. I also want a place where you don't need a passport to get to, because I don't want my family and friends to have to go through extra trouble to get them. Also, how do you go about making arrangements to get married like this? Thanks for your time!What is the best cheapest beach to get married on that you don't need a passport to get to?
Where do you live? I am getting married in Laguna Beach on the sand in May. We are going through MarcyAnn.com, she offers different packages of all prices and has a few officiants you can choose from. Check it out :]
I dont know for sure but I'm guessing the closest beach to you is located in New Jersey. You don't need a passport to fly to anywhere in the United States so I think it really depends on how far you want to travel. There are plenty of inexpensive beach wedding locations in California. I know that New Jersey is close to you so maybe try going on google, and typing in New Jersey beach weddings (lots of websites should pop up, just check some of them out)
Where do you live? I am getting married in Laguna Beach on the sand in May. We are going through MarcyAnn.com, she offers different packages of all prices and has a few officiants you can choose from. Check it out :]
I dont know for sure but I'm guessing the closest beach to you is located in New Jersey. You don't need a passport to fly to anywhere in the United States so I think it really depends on how far you want to travel. There are plenty of inexpensive beach wedding locations in California. I know that New Jersey is close to you so maybe try going on google, and typing in New Jersey beach weddings (lots of websites should pop up, just check some of them out)
A good Valentine gift for my 1st year married?
This will be our first valentines day as husband and wife and i am trying to think of something unusual that he will never forget. Any ideas? Men please feel free to tell me the things you would appreciate.A good Valentine gift for my 1st year married?
I'm a huge fan of the chocolate and champagne thing so a gift like i'm leaving in the source section would be great for me.
Everyone's different and I obviously don't know your husband so may not be for him, but this is something that I'd love.A good Valentine gift for my 1st year married?
Cook some pasta dish and arrange flowers and scented candles in such a manner that your hubby gets flattered instantly
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So you won鈥檛 have to give any load on your pocket and your beloved would be happy as well
Send the kids to your mom or with a friend. Cook him a nice dinner and wear something sexy. Then once you guys are done eating, have the bathtub surrounded by nice lit candles and then when you're done, run into the bedroom but make sure you have decorated your bed with rose petals. Give your husband a nice massage naked. Tell him how much you love him. Good Luck!
do a romantic evening for him, candles tub side, soft music, and maybe small notes put through out the house and car to remind him of why you guys got married.
Fried chicken, chunky brown gravy, crescent rolls, mashed potatoes, baby peas with pearl onions, and sweet tea.
Take her to a nice resort for an instant romantic get-away. You'll also find some good gift ideas in www.gifti.us. I often go to that site when I need help on gift ideas.
Put together photos for a memory book.
I'm a huge fan of the chocolate and champagne thing so a gift like i'm leaving in the source section would be great for me.
Everyone's different and I obviously don't know your husband so may not be for him, but this is something that I'd love.A good Valentine gift for my 1st year married?
Cook some pasta dish and arrange flowers and scented candles in such a manner that your hubby gets flattered instantly
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Send the kids to your mom or with a friend. Cook him a nice dinner and wear something sexy. Then once you guys are done eating, have the bathtub surrounded by nice lit candles and then when you're done, run into the bedroom but make sure you have decorated your bed with rose petals. Give your husband a nice massage naked. Tell him how much you love him. Good Luck!
do a romantic evening for him, candles tub side, soft music, and maybe small notes put through out the house and car to remind him of why you guys got married.
Fried chicken, chunky brown gravy, crescent rolls, mashed potatoes, baby peas with pearl onions, and sweet tea.
Take her to a nice resort for an instant romantic get-away. You'll also find some good gift ideas in www.gifti.us. I often go to that site when I need help on gift ideas.
Put together photos for a memory book.
I have a green card, and I am dating a French man. How do we get married in the Philippines?
I am a Filipino, and I have been in the United States for four years now. I have a green card; the guy that I am dating is in France. If we so decide to get married in the Philippines, what documents do we need to comply? Will our marriage be acknowledged in U.S. and France?I have a green card, and I am dating a French man. How do we get married in the Philippines?
what you will need to do? is to contact the french embassy in the Philippines,
unfortunately, the embassy does not have a web page, it will make your search harder,
once you are married? you will need to have a translation of your marriage to follow up in the US,
here is the french embassy in the Philippines
French Embassy in Makati, Philippines
Embassy of France in Makati, Philippines
16th Floor Pacific Star Building
Makati corner Gil Puyat Avenue
1200 Makati City, Philippines
City: Makati
Phone: (00.632).810.1981/8
Fax: (00.632).813.1908
write to the embassy and ask for their web site, and communicate the it;
I have a green card, and I am dating a French man. How do we get married in the Philippines?
Just have a civil wedding in the US before you have your church wedding in Manila so you won't have problems.
what you will need to do? is to contact the french embassy in the Philippines,
unfortunately, the embassy does not have a web page, it will make your search harder,
once you are married? you will need to have a translation of your marriage to follow up in the US,
here is the french embassy in the Philippines
French Embassy in Makati, Philippines
Embassy of France in Makati, Philippines
16th Floor Pacific Star Building
Makati corner Gil Puyat Avenue
1200 Makati City, Philippines
City: Makati
Phone: (00.632).810.1981/8
Fax: (00.632).813.1908
write to the embassy and ask for their web site, and communicate the it;
I have a green card, and I am dating a French man. How do we get married in the Philippines?
Just have a civil wedding in the US before you have your church wedding in Manila so you won't have problems.
What is the max withholding allowance for single/married w4?
Trying to figure out the max withholding allowance for single/married filing status on form w4?
Thanks!What is the max withholding allowance for single/married w4?
If you elect more than 10, your HR department will have to file an explanation with the IRS.
Your state might have a different threshold.
In Minnesota, claiming more than 8 exemptions requires an explanation to the State Department of Revenue.
Thanks!What is the max withholding allowance for single/married w4?
If you elect more than 10, your HR department will have to file an explanation with the IRS.
Your state might have a different threshold.
In Minnesota, claiming more than 8 exemptions requires an explanation to the State Department of Revenue.
How much is the average refund for a married couple with a 60,000 income?
Filing joint, what is the average refund for 60,000.How much is the average refund for a married couple with a 60,000 income?
You may want to try this Free Tax tool out!
I hope this info helps!How much is the average refund for a married couple with a 60,000 income?
Any ';average'; would be totally meaningless. What YOU will get, if anything, depends on a number of things about your personal situation. Any kids? or other dependents? Do you have enough deductions to itemize? Any credits you qualify for? How much did you have withheld?
I'm not sure you understand just what a refund is. Through the year you might have money withheld from your paycheck for federal income tax. At the end of the year, you prepare a form called a tax return to calculate how much tax you owe total for the year, and compare that to what was withheld. If you had more withheld than your total tax, you get the extra back as a refund. If you didn't have enough withheld, you have to pay the rest rather than getting a refund.
In the case of a tax return, the average is not a good predictor of your return. Returns depend on many things, such as deductibles, how many you claimed on your W-4 and how much was withheld by the employer(s). Not to mention that the IRS does not release that type of info. All they release is the average return for the entire population.
Depends on how much you had withheld and how many children you claim.
My experience is that a couple making $60k with no kids usually pays in every year.
You are one of the ';rich'; that need to be taxed, didn't you know that?
There is no average refund that would be meaningful to your tax situation. Every taxpayer's tax return is unique.
You may want to try this Free Tax tool out!
I hope this info helps!How much is the average refund for a married couple with a 60,000 income?
Any ';average'; would be totally meaningless. What YOU will get, if anything, depends on a number of things about your personal situation. Any kids? or other dependents? Do you have enough deductions to itemize? Any credits you qualify for? How much did you have withheld?
I'm not sure you understand just what a refund is. Through the year you might have money withheld from your paycheck for federal income tax. At the end of the year, you prepare a form called a tax return to calculate how much tax you owe total for the year, and compare that to what was withheld. If you had more withheld than your total tax, you get the extra back as a refund. If you didn't have enough withheld, you have to pay the rest rather than getting a refund.
In the case of a tax return, the average is not a good predictor of your return. Returns depend on many things, such as deductibles, how many you claimed on your W-4 and how much was withheld by the employer(s). Not to mention that the IRS does not release that type of info. All they release is the average return for the entire population.
Depends on how much you had withheld and how many children you claim.
My experience is that a couple making $60k with no kids usually pays in every year.
You are one of the ';rich'; that need to be taxed, didn't you know that?
There is no average refund that would be meaningful to your tax situation. Every taxpayer's tax return is unique.
How long did you and your husband/wife wait to have a baby after you got married?
After you got married, how long did you and your husband/wife wait to start trying to have a baby? Do you think there is a time that is too early to start trying, like one year or less?How long did you and your husband/wife wait to have a baby after you got married?
we got pregnant exactly nine months to the day that we got married. i am glad that it didnt take that long knowing what i know now. my daughter is eleven months and i just found out i have a cyst on my ovary and i have endometriosis and i may not be able to have any more children, even though i want more so so bad. and no i dont think that there is a time limit for everyone. you will know when the right time for you to start trying. its when you both have your feet on the ground and are financially stable. we had a house and two vehicles that were paid for when we got pregnant and we were only 19 and 21. i know some people arent that lucky to have those things at that age. but dont worry just talk to hubby about it you'll figure it out! hope this helped!!How long did you and your husband/wife wait to have a baby after you got married?
well im not married , but my parents waited three years .
Peronally , I think its best to wait . The reason I believe this
is because even though you think your madly in love with
your parnter , this could change , and i think its horrible for a
child to be raised without a dad , expecially if the mother
dosent find a nice step dad who is strict enough .
There was a study on all the kids who did drugs before the
age of 15 , and 80 % parents were not together . ( I think this
is because they are home alone more since both the
parents arent there ) Anyways I hope I helped , haha
we got married July 28th and found out we were pregnant November 27th...so we only waited 4 months
but this was our second one, and we had been living together for almost 3 years before we got pregnant second time around.
i dont think that there is any set time that a couple should wait. obviously they shouldnt start trying immediately like the hunny moon, they should give themselves a little time together as a married couple first. but i think that when a couple is ready they should go for it no matter how long they have been married
I have been married for about 2 years, soon to be 3 years in September....We've talked about having a baby soon BUT I think that it's so important to have those years as a couple alone and some fab. momments together. I think that it's very important as a new married couple to be established $$$$...we just purchased a home and have many things going on at work, I couldnt see my self anytime soon leaving on maternity leave?? besides, enjoy the married life together as two for a while and then bring a bundle of joy into the world :)
My husband and i got married while i was pregnant , but we had already planned everything and set the date before we found out we were pregnant , i think most married couples it all depends on both partners when its time to start trying for a baby , most start within the year they got married , but it's all up to you and your husband
My husband and I got married in Feb 2007 and got preggers in Nov 07 we are expecting in Aug :-) However we were dating for almost 4 years before we got married. We weren;t really trying to get prego but we weren't trying not to but both had talked about it since even before marriage.
I think it depends on the couple and other factors like if you lived together before marriage, how long you've known ach other, if you are both financially stable ect.
We married a month before her birth! In some ways it made things harder. There was no time for us to get adjusted as a couple before kids. In other ways it helped alot. We started with just his income and me at home with the baby, so it was easier to budget and make things work. Anytime we fought, having a child made us try that much harder to make things work and not give up. Its not for everyone, but it turned out ok for us. We've been married 10 years now and expecting our 4th. Its been an exhausting, but good 10 years!
We had dated over a year before her conception. I'd think a year of marriage (at least 6 months) would be a good spacing before adding kids to the mix.
Been married 7 years, and we're still not trying. - I know people say and to go ahead, and not to wait until the money is there. But, I have trouble bring a baby into this world, when our annual income was $27,000 last year. It doesn't seem fair to a child.
So, hopefully we'll turn things around soon, and be able to start trying.
Well, we got together when my son was an infant (2 months), but had known each other for over a year, as friends. When we got together we pretty much started trying right away, but had no luck for 11 years! We finally had our daughter last Nov and are trying again now. By the way, he adopted my son and we've been married for 8 years now! I don't think it's ever too soon for a baby, as long as you both want it equally!
Our 5 year wedding anniversary was 13 days after our son was born.We didn't want to rush into it %26amp; wanted time to ourselves before bringing a baby into it.I think it is good to wait at least a year but it really depends on the couple.There is no set time %26amp; it is different for everyone.
We were married for almost 2 years when we decided to start trying. I was afraid that it would take awhile because of being on birth control for so long. I finished my December pack and we got pregnant in January. lol It happened MUCH quicker than we had planned, but it was good timing for us!
5 years. We just wanted to be sure we'd had enough special ';couple time';, and we also wanted to be very secure financially and in a semi-permanent location. I think people should have children when they feel it is right for them, everyone's situation is different.
I think it really does depend on the couple/situation. If the women is pushing 40 then she might not want to wait for that reason alone. I don't think there is a right/wrong time. My hubby and i tried after being married almost 2 years and then it took us about a year to get pregnant
My husband and I knew we wanted a baby, we started trying right after we got married. It took us 6 months to get pregnant, but here we are due in November, a baby girl is on her way. Good Luck, I think you'll know when your ready.
We started trying 6 months after we got married, but we didn't get pregnant for 18 months after we got married! Enjoy married life for a while. We were together 2 years before we even got married! Plus we are both almost 30
5 years before we got married. I think its time to start trying when you are comfortable with the fact it is not going to be just you two anymore, which is not bad just different.
We really wanted a family right away, we got pregnant 6 months into the marriage and couldn't be happier.
We never used birth control and ended up pregnant after 4 months. What's the point of getting married if not to start a family? You might as well just live together without bothering to get married.
I got pregnant 5 months before my wedding (unplanned). Studies show it's best to wait a year after getting married before starting a family, but I think it depends on the couple too.
My husband and I got married after 6 months of dating. and then
we had our first child like after a year and 8 months, and now we're expecting our second child.
tried right away!! it didn't happen though! we tried for a year and ended up having twins through IVF!! we couldnt wait to share our love with little ones! we couldn't wait to have a family!!
We got pregnant after 1 year and 3 months.
I do think ppl should wait @ least one year :)
2 months prior. There is no shame in trying immediately. You will be around longer for them.
i think the right time is when you are financially ready. however long that takes.
My parents waited two years! I'll go with that!
2 months. oops :)makeup online
we got pregnant exactly nine months to the day that we got married. i am glad that it didnt take that long knowing what i know now. my daughter is eleven months and i just found out i have a cyst on my ovary and i have endometriosis and i may not be able to have any more children, even though i want more so so bad. and no i dont think that there is a time limit for everyone. you will know when the right time for you to start trying. its when you both have your feet on the ground and are financially stable. we had a house and two vehicles that were paid for when we got pregnant and we were only 19 and 21. i know some people arent that lucky to have those things at that age. but dont worry just talk to hubby about it you'll figure it out! hope this helped!!How long did you and your husband/wife wait to have a baby after you got married?
well im not married , but my parents waited three years .
Peronally , I think its best to wait . The reason I believe this
is because even though you think your madly in love with
your parnter , this could change , and i think its horrible for a
child to be raised without a dad , expecially if the mother
dosent find a nice step dad who is strict enough .
There was a study on all the kids who did drugs before the
age of 15 , and 80 % parents were not together . ( I think this
is because they are home alone more since both the
parents arent there ) Anyways I hope I helped , haha
we got married July 28th and found out we were pregnant November 27th...so we only waited 4 months
but this was our second one, and we had been living together for almost 3 years before we got pregnant second time around.
i dont think that there is any set time that a couple should wait. obviously they shouldnt start trying immediately like the hunny moon, they should give themselves a little time together as a married couple first. but i think that when a couple is ready they should go for it no matter how long they have been married
I have been married for about 2 years, soon to be 3 years in September....We've talked about having a baby soon BUT I think that it's so important to have those years as a couple alone and some fab. momments together. I think that it's very important as a new married couple to be established $$$$...we just purchased a home and have many things going on at work, I couldnt see my self anytime soon leaving on maternity leave?? besides, enjoy the married life together as two for a while and then bring a bundle of joy into the world :)
My husband and i got married while i was pregnant , but we had already planned everything and set the date before we found out we were pregnant , i think most married couples it all depends on both partners when its time to start trying for a baby , most start within the year they got married , but it's all up to you and your husband
My husband and I got married in Feb 2007 and got preggers in Nov 07 we are expecting in Aug :-) However we were dating for almost 4 years before we got married. We weren;t really trying to get prego but we weren't trying not to but both had talked about it since even before marriage.
I think it depends on the couple and other factors like if you lived together before marriage, how long you've known ach other, if you are both financially stable ect.
We married a month before her birth! In some ways it made things harder. There was no time for us to get adjusted as a couple before kids. In other ways it helped alot. We started with just his income and me at home with the baby, so it was easier to budget and make things work. Anytime we fought, having a child made us try that much harder to make things work and not give up. Its not for everyone, but it turned out ok for us. We've been married 10 years now and expecting our 4th. Its been an exhausting, but good 10 years!
We had dated over a year before her conception. I'd think a year of marriage (at least 6 months) would be a good spacing before adding kids to the mix.
Been married 7 years, and we're still not trying. - I know people say and to go ahead, and not to wait until the money is there. But, I have trouble bring a baby into this world, when our annual income was $27,000 last year. It doesn't seem fair to a child.
So, hopefully we'll turn things around soon, and be able to start trying.
Well, we got together when my son was an infant (2 months), but had known each other for over a year, as friends. When we got together we pretty much started trying right away, but had no luck for 11 years! We finally had our daughter last Nov and are trying again now. By the way, he adopted my son and we've been married for 8 years now! I don't think it's ever too soon for a baby, as long as you both want it equally!
Our 5 year wedding anniversary was 13 days after our son was born.We didn't want to rush into it %26amp; wanted time to ourselves before bringing a baby into it.I think it is good to wait at least a year but it really depends on the couple.There is no set time %26amp; it is different for everyone.
We were married for almost 2 years when we decided to start trying. I was afraid that it would take awhile because of being on birth control for so long. I finished my December pack and we got pregnant in January. lol It happened MUCH quicker than we had planned, but it was good timing for us!
5 years. We just wanted to be sure we'd had enough special ';couple time';, and we also wanted to be very secure financially and in a semi-permanent location. I think people should have children when they feel it is right for them, everyone's situation is different.
I think it really does depend on the couple/situation. If the women is pushing 40 then she might not want to wait for that reason alone. I don't think there is a right/wrong time. My hubby and i tried after being married almost 2 years and then it took us about a year to get pregnant
My husband and I knew we wanted a baby, we started trying right after we got married. It took us 6 months to get pregnant, but here we are due in November, a baby girl is on her way. Good Luck, I think you'll know when your ready.
We started trying 6 months after we got married, but we didn't get pregnant for 18 months after we got married! Enjoy married life for a while. We were together 2 years before we even got married! Plus we are both almost 30
5 years before we got married. I think its time to start trying when you are comfortable with the fact it is not going to be just you two anymore, which is not bad just different.
We really wanted a family right away, we got pregnant 6 months into the marriage and couldn't be happier.
We never used birth control and ended up pregnant after 4 months. What's the point of getting married if not to start a family? You might as well just live together without bothering to get married.
I got pregnant 5 months before my wedding (unplanned). Studies show it's best to wait a year after getting married before starting a family, but I think it depends on the couple too.
My husband and I got married after 6 months of dating. and then
we had our first child like after a year and 8 months, and now we're expecting our second child.
tried right away!! it didn't happen though! we tried for a year and ended up having twins through IVF!! we couldnt wait to share our love with little ones! we couldn't wait to have a family!!
We got pregnant after 1 year and 3 months.
I do think ppl should wait @ least one year :)
2 months prior. There is no shame in trying immediately. You will be around longer for them.
i think the right time is when you are financially ready. however long that takes.
My parents waited two years! I'll go with that!
2 months. oops :)
I married a mexican lady, but I can't pay immigration fees right now Is there financial aid for this purpose?
With that I mean I can repay as soon as I get back on my feet, or maybe she can get a work permit while she gets her papers.I married a mexican lady, but I can't pay immigration fees right now Is there financial aid for this purpose?
Kat, you are just mean, I wish you never have a problem with money. Bill, I'm sure there's someone somewhere that could help you, maybe your church. Good luck.I married a mexican lady, but I can't pay immigration fees right now Is there financial aid for this purpose?
Get a part-time job for the meantime ar any job that will support you and your wife.This is a long process and requires a lot of fees and trips to the INS.The fees will go higher this year.If your wife has a SSS# and can get a work permit,yes,she can find a job.
As abril said, you must have an income or a job to even qualify to petition her. Otherwise, you are SOL.
You should not have gotten married if you could not afford it.
And lets see how long the new Mexican wife sticks around when she finds out you dont qualify.
Definitely not! In fact, you will have to show that you are 125% over the poverty line in order for your wife to immigrate. Or you can have a family member show that he or she is over the poverty line and is willing to sign an affadavit of support.
You will have to get a loan from friends or family. As for your wife getting a work permit while she waits, what she is waiting for is the greencard and ssn which are her working permits. Anyway, all permits cost money.
Good luck.
I think you have to be making a certian amount of money. Unfrotunatly, if you don't make the money the overment offers you no aid. If I were you I would try to get a loan or ask friends or family for help.
no, get a job
no
The government won't help you with this. You have to earn 125% of poverty level to even qualify. You can try to borrow the money for the filing fees but you will have to prove that you can support yourselves otherwise the will deny your application.
Kat, you are just mean, I wish you never have a problem with money. Bill, I'm sure there's someone somewhere that could help you, maybe your church. Good luck.I married a mexican lady, but I can't pay immigration fees right now Is there financial aid for this purpose?
Get a part-time job for the meantime ar any job that will support you and your wife.This is a long process and requires a lot of fees and trips to the INS.The fees will go higher this year.If your wife has a SSS# and can get a work permit,yes,she can find a job.
As abril said, you must have an income or a job to even qualify to petition her. Otherwise, you are SOL.
You should not have gotten married if you could not afford it.
And lets see how long the new Mexican wife sticks around when she finds out you dont qualify.
Definitely not! In fact, you will have to show that you are 125% over the poverty line in order for your wife to immigrate. Or you can have a family member show that he or she is over the poverty line and is willing to sign an affadavit of support.
You will have to get a loan from friends or family. As for your wife getting a work permit while she waits, what she is waiting for is the greencard and ssn which are her working permits. Anyway, all permits cost money.
Good luck.
I think you have to be making a certian amount of money. Unfrotunatly, if you don't make the money the overment offers you no aid. If I were you I would try to get a loan or ask friends or family for help.
no, get a job
no
The government won't help you with this. You have to earn 125% of poverty level to even qualify. You can try to borrow the money for the filing fees but you will have to prove that you can support yourselves otherwise the will deny your application.
I am a permanent resident who recently got married to a veteran?
My now husband was in the navy for 4yrs and is now a veteran and we got married last year and I am a permanent resident. What benefits do I get for being married to him.I am a permanent resident who recently got married to a veteran?
As his legal permanent resident spouse, you would be entitled to the same benefits that a US citizen spouse would.
Veteran Benefits website:
http://www.vba.va.gov/bln/dependents/spo鈥?/a>I am a permanent resident who recently got married to a veteran?
So you are permanent resident before marrying your vet (4 year navy) husband!
No benefits whatsoever. His veteran pension is not divisible property, is not reportable, and does not pay tax. He gets med benefits (maybe), and in some states can get a few other benefits. I guess one benefit you get (assuming he's honorably discharged, is the ability to be buried on a military cemetery. You might also be able to get a housing, or loan benefit through him so when you and him buy a home it might be a little lower interest or you might pay no money down.
4 years? Nothing.
Now, if he were still on active duty, and he got orders to an overseas duty station, your application for US citizenship could be fast tracked. Instead of a wait of about a year it would be done in a week or two.
Hi, Can you please elaborate you question a little bit more? What kind of benefits are we talking about? Health Benefits? I'm confuse.
As his legal permanent resident spouse, you would be entitled to the same benefits that a US citizen spouse would.
Veteran Benefits website:
http://www.vba.va.gov/bln/dependents/spo鈥?/a>I am a permanent resident who recently got married to a veteran?
So you are permanent resident before marrying your vet (4 year navy) husband!
No benefits whatsoever. His veteran pension is not divisible property, is not reportable, and does not pay tax. He gets med benefits (maybe), and in some states can get a few other benefits. I guess one benefit you get (assuming he's honorably discharged, is the ability to be buried on a military cemetery. You might also be able to get a housing, or loan benefit through him so when you and him buy a home it might be a little lower interest or you might pay no money down.
4 years? Nothing.
Now, if he were still on active duty, and he got orders to an overseas duty station, your application for US citizenship could be fast tracked. Instead of a wait of about a year it would be done in a week or two.
Hi, Can you please elaborate you question a little bit more? What kind of benefits are we talking about? Health Benefits? I'm confuse.
My wife and I filled Married Jointly and would like to change to Married separately. Is that possible?
Unfortunately not. Two separately filed returns may be combined into one joint return, but Form 1040X states right on the first page that you ';cannot change from joint to separate returns after the due date.'; IRS Publication 501 (linked below) confirms this position.My wife and I filled Married Jointly and would like to change to Married separately. Is that possible?
If one of you files married seperate, both of you have to.
Trust me: you don't want to do this. Married seperate is the worst way to file ever invented. Satan himself introduced this method back when he was serving in Congress.
(I'm having trouble figuring out how you're going to amend, though. I don't think it's possible if you've already filed.)My wife and I filled Married Jointly and would like to change to Married separately. Is that possible?
No. Once a joint return is filed, it is NOT possible to go back and amend to separate returns once the due date for filing has passed.
You CAN file separately first and then go back and amend to a joint return, but not the other way around.
Not for '06 you can't
Sure go to your employers office and change it.
Yes, you can change. Even for 2006 though you filed a return, you can file an Amended Tax Return and change from Married Joint to Married Separately. Keep in mind that the tax may be higher for a separate return though you can try it both ways and see what works best (generally there is less tax on a joint return however that is not always the case).
Although some answers provided to you said you cannot change to a separate return for 2006, that is not correct and you may change for any open year (3 years from date of filing the return). You would need to prepare the amended return however.
If one of you files married seperate, both of you have to.
Trust me: you don't want to do this. Married seperate is the worst way to file ever invented. Satan himself introduced this method back when he was serving in Congress.
(I'm having trouble figuring out how you're going to amend, though. I don't think it's possible if you've already filed.)My wife and I filled Married Jointly and would like to change to Married separately. Is that possible?
No. Once a joint return is filed, it is NOT possible to go back and amend to separate returns once the due date for filing has passed.
You CAN file separately first and then go back and amend to a joint return, but not the other way around.
Not for '06 you can't
Sure go to your employers office and change it.
Yes, you can change. Even for 2006 though you filed a return, you can file an Amended Tax Return and change from Married Joint to Married Separately. Keep in mind that the tax may be higher for a separate return though you can try it both ways and see what works best (generally there is less tax on a joint return however that is not always the case).
Although some answers provided to you said you cannot change to a separate return for 2006, that is not correct and you may change for any open year (3 years from date of filing the return). You would need to prepare the amended return however.
How do i help keep my future wife from getting tired of romance after we are married for a while?
I have heard that some women get tired of sharing affection with their husband after so long. How can i show her that i don't just love her because she shows me affection and help keep her from getting tired of sharing affection?How do i help keep my future wife from getting tired of romance after we are married for a while?
Women usually get tired of sharing affection, because they do too much in the relationshp such as cook, clean, care for the kids as well as work. If you want your wife to feel up to doing these things help out more with the tasks that take her away from you.
She'll likely appreciate it.How do i help keep my future wife from getting tired of romance after we are married for a while?
Make her feel desirable. Surprise her with compliments when she least expects it. Show her appreciation for everything she does. Share your day to day life with her. Explore your fantasy life together.
The most important thing is talk to her. Communicate always. When things are good and when things are bad. A lot of times I think when women pull back physically is when they feel resentful about other areas of their lives. It's hard to show affection when you don't feel affectionate towards the person you're with. Love her in all ways and be loved in all ways in return.
Honestly, I think the women you are referring to are the ones who didn't really love their husbands to start with, i have been married to my hubby for ten years, been together for 11. And I still can't get enough of him. I truly feel that with each year that we are together my love gets stronger and deeper for him.
If anything, just love her, respect her, be her best friend. Share things with her. My husband and I do that, and maybe thats what makes us remain so close?
The only time that happens is when you guys start to act like @ssholes. For example, never asking about her day, leaving your crap laying around and expecting the laundry fairy to come get it, sitting around with a beer in one hand and the remote in the other... etc.
Stay away from those behaviors and your wife will swoon for life.
It's actually quite simple isn't it?
So she's a REDHEAD? How did I miss that information....
My boyfriend swears we're going to start our own branch davidian compound. I get to be head wife so that's all that matters.
Continue to show her affection but at the same time, try not to smother her, if you do, she will pull away from you and that is not what you are trying to do.
Be spontaneous and don't expect her to respond the same way to the same thing every time.
Don't neglect her.
Marriage isn't a destination. It is a beginning.
Tell her straight out the reasons you love her. Leave little notes where she will find them just telling her you are thinking of her
Get a hot red headed woman to join in your bedroom activities.
Keep a spare woman just in case one gets too bored.
ALWAYS make sure her sexual needs are met and never take her for granted.
Change it up every night
don't get married
stay romantic and loving all the time and dont get fat
Women usually get tired of sharing affection, because they do too much in the relationshp such as cook, clean, care for the kids as well as work. If you want your wife to feel up to doing these things help out more with the tasks that take her away from you.
She'll likely appreciate it.How do i help keep my future wife from getting tired of romance after we are married for a while?
Make her feel desirable. Surprise her with compliments when she least expects it. Show her appreciation for everything she does. Share your day to day life with her. Explore your fantasy life together.
The most important thing is talk to her. Communicate always. When things are good and when things are bad. A lot of times I think when women pull back physically is when they feel resentful about other areas of their lives. It's hard to show affection when you don't feel affectionate towards the person you're with. Love her in all ways and be loved in all ways in return.
Honestly, I think the women you are referring to are the ones who didn't really love their husbands to start with, i have been married to my hubby for ten years, been together for 11. And I still can't get enough of him. I truly feel that with each year that we are together my love gets stronger and deeper for him.
If anything, just love her, respect her, be her best friend. Share things with her. My husband and I do that, and maybe thats what makes us remain so close?
The only time that happens is when you guys start to act like @ssholes. For example, never asking about her day, leaving your crap laying around and expecting the laundry fairy to come get it, sitting around with a beer in one hand and the remote in the other... etc.
Stay away from those behaviors and your wife will swoon for life.
It's actually quite simple isn't it?
So she's a REDHEAD? How did I miss that information....
My boyfriend swears we're going to start our own branch davidian compound. I get to be head wife so that's all that matters.
Continue to show her affection but at the same time, try not to smother her, if you do, she will pull away from you and that is not what you are trying to do.
Be spontaneous and don't expect her to respond the same way to the same thing every time.
Don't neglect her.
Marriage isn't a destination. It is a beginning.
Tell her straight out the reasons you love her. Leave little notes where she will find them just telling her you are thinking of her
Get a hot red headed woman to join in your bedroom activities.
Keep a spare woman just in case one gets too bored.
ALWAYS make sure her sexual needs are met and never take her for granted.
Change it up every night
don't get married
stay romantic and loving all the time and dont get fat
How to tell your dad your are gettting married?
How to tell him, I'm engaged, and I want to tell him the good news! But I don't know how to tell him.How to tell your dad your are gettting married?
My fiance wanted to do the whole traditional/old fashioned thing of asking my dad for permission to marry me. So they went golfing together and my fiance asked my dad for permission. We were already engaged but that made it official :)
But just have you dad over for supper with you and your fiance or something and tell him. I am sure he'll be ok with it.
Congrats and good luck.How to tell your dad your are gettting married?
Is this going to be a shocker for him as it depends on how long you have been seeing this guy.I think the guy should have asked your father's permission to have his daughters hand in marriage.so just tell your father that his little girl has grown up (hope you are old enough) and is now ready to make a new life with the love of her life.That you would like his blessing and be happy for you on this wonderful day of my life.
oh gosh i just went thru this. altho in my case my bf had to go talk with him in person and ask for his permission/blessing. its a cultural thing. i started the conversation though by saying you know i've been with so and so for so long and i really love him etc...and he proposed! also i kind of warmed him up to the idea since my mom dropped hints. i told my mom first since i am so much closer to her. good luck
';%26lt;INSERT NAME OF FIANCE HERE%26gt; asked me to marry him!'; in an excited happy tone is always a classic.
dad this is important sit down ok im getting marries to (Mans name) i accepted because i love him
My fiance wanted to do the whole traditional/old fashioned thing of asking my dad for permission to marry me. So they went golfing together and my fiance asked my dad for permission. We were already engaged but that made it official :)
But just have you dad over for supper with you and your fiance or something and tell him. I am sure he'll be ok with it.
Congrats and good luck.How to tell your dad your are gettting married?
Is this going to be a shocker for him as it depends on how long you have been seeing this guy.I think the guy should have asked your father's permission to have his daughters hand in marriage.so just tell your father that his little girl has grown up (hope you are old enough) and is now ready to make a new life with the love of her life.That you would like his blessing and be happy for you on this wonderful day of my life.
oh gosh i just went thru this. altho in my case my bf had to go talk with him in person and ask for his permission/blessing. its a cultural thing. i started the conversation though by saying you know i've been with so and so for so long and i really love him etc...and he proposed! also i kind of warmed him up to the idea since my mom dropped hints. i told my mom first since i am so much closer to her. good luck
';%26lt;INSERT NAME OF FIANCE HERE%26gt; asked me to marry him!'; in an excited happy tone is always a classic.
dad this is important sit down ok im getting marries to (Mans name) i accepted because i love him
What are some good excuses for not getting married?
I'm a playa as I eva was back in my youth, but Ima gettin' up in years and my fam and relies are telling me to shag the knot with a woman. Tell me a way that I can say that I'm a playa fo life.What are some good excuses for not getting married?
';I don't want to get married';What are some good excuses for not getting married?
First learn proper grammar;second learn to speak english;and third what?
anyways,tell your ';fam'; that 1 your not ready; 2 or you don't feel the spark
3 the truth 4 why would they push something this important toward you that
can change your life;5 say that you are who you are and you don't want to get
married and if they want you to do it so badly why don't they. hope this helps;
';Dear Family,
You know I've never found a woman that could satisfy my ego as much as my mirror, and as I get older, and the more I look between my legs and still love myself, I've decided that I won't try pretending anymore that I'm looking for anything more than sex.
Since I've had little more than the little between-my-legs to offer in any case, I thought I'd make it official before a list of the women I''ve had relations with gets in contact with you, points at your son/'relly'/'friend' and pees themselves with their pinky finger.
So I've decided to throw away my dictionary and become a 'playa fo life.'
You can find me with a bad haircut, stooped gait and unrealistic view of life anytime soon, unless you care anything for me as a son/'relly'/friend, and slap me into the real world 'rilly kwik.'
';
Dude look in to sociology. You will find a lot of legitimate reasons. Marriage is a scam. And it is advertised everywhere. Trust me look into sociology.
Why get married it is a political statement. It is a contract through the government that says i own this person and they own me. So you can say once you are married ';If you leave me baby I will sue your beep for leaving me';. I would say marriage is in a way like slavery. A human contract. For life.
find some living examples to show them that marriage is not for everyone! maybe you have an uncle or family friend. think of a celebrity they like. tell them you like the single life and don't want to bring anyone in your life you cant commit too, say you want to live your life for yourself and not anyone else. maybe you want a career or traveling or maybe you just like a relaxing life! and not answering to anyone! tell them there is still time to change men in there 60s can marry a young women and have kids! : )good luck
Marriage isn't for all people, you haven't found the right woman and you don't want to end up with the wrong one, you have too much going on with your life, you were probed by aliens and still getting over the experience, you aren't mentally stable enough to be reliable yet, or you just don't believe in marriage. I've heard all used before :]
Best of luck...playa.
I am irresponsible and would make a terrible dad
I am a gay fella and would rather play with the boys
I am a selfish bastard and would make a terrible husband or father
I have my head so far up my *** I have to clean the lint from my navel to see to shave my chin
tell them I am shallow and can't be bothered to settle down and make a contribution to society.
I am only interested in my selfish pleasure and prefer to deceive women that I will commit until they finally figure out that I am a douchbag.
Tell them I have no soul, so just write me off, k?
As a married person, I find the most accurate and good reason for not getting married is this....
Your love is no longer based on appreciation for each other, instead, it's based on expectations from each other, which isn't really love at all.
You can quote me. lol.
You are cleary not the type of person that should get married and thankfully doesn't want to get married.
Tell your family to back off and that marraige is just not your thing. If you find someone you love and who loves you back then by all means get maerried.
Until that happens its whatever.
honestly i think weddings are kinda over rated
sure there nice if u have the money for them
everyone is going to want to come and its going to cost big bucks
i say if u want to spend money on something like that just have a big party and annouce to everyone who your precious googly bear is
lol
I've know a few playas who eventually turn in their playa card. Look at Uncle Luke. Just tell them that you simply don't want to get married. It's not something you plan on doing. If they can't handle that then too bad. It's your life not theirs.
tell your family you dont want to ruin another person life by breaking her heart with your bullshit. thus you choose not to marry and never will. and i hope when you fall in love. that women tells u the same thing so you can kno how it feels.
i dont expect a best answer for this
Tell them you'll settle down when the time is right and the woman is right. Tell them that it bothers you when you keep asking and that they will be the first to know when you do decide to settle down.
You can say that you're happy as a bachelor, and that whenever you feel that you need to settle down with a lady, you will marry her.
Or you can say tell them, that you haven't found the right girl.
Sorry i can't think of any reasons not to get married i been married 3 times myself and i would do it again if i had to. I think this marriage is working out it's been 30 years so far.
ye dawn't need tae tie yerself, laddie. jes tell yer fam yer not interested in marriage at this stage. even better tell em ye like a thumpin' man. that would shut em up good. well, keep playin, laddie
:)):)) well.. u can tell them that you are an illiterate idiot:))):)) that should scare away all the women... and after that you can be the biggest playa' in the world:)))
you are such a dumb @ss :)):))
_|_
';i wanna explore the sea, not the ONE bedroom!'; Okay, i'm just spit balling here. idk!
??????
Plus i'm like really young so...yah. but i would recomend settling down with one girl!
I personally don't believe in marriage because it doesn't change anything. It won't make you happier or make your relationship stronger.
Hope that helps.
Well, Playa
Maybe you should get married--
But tell them you dont want to get married cause it will make you feel tyed down...
well you could just say you have a clinical social disorder that forces you not to be forced into commitment.
http://www.phobias-help.com/commitment_p鈥?/a>
Im not ready to marry. I still want to play the field and see the rest of the fish. Being married will just holdd me back.
Your fam doesn't deserve to control you like some kind of friggin slave. Tell them to back off and if they don't then that means that they suck and have no life .
be like, i need more time, then do something bad so you can break up with her, and start all over again
Why not just tell the truth. Yo I'm a playa fo life back off stop tryin to block my action. Buy a nice female dog let the family moon over the new *****.
Tell them not to hate the playa but to hate the game. Playa for life yo!
you need to find an excuse TO get married! marriage is dumb.
you are who you are and you will get married only if you want to!
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
hope i helped
You could grow up! How do I tell my mommy that I don't wanna get married? She will be mad at me!! Waaa! Give me a break!
over 9000
Its time you tell them your gay, they'll still love you.makeup online
';I don't want to get married';What are some good excuses for not getting married?
First learn proper grammar;second learn to speak english;and third what?
anyways,tell your ';fam'; that 1 your not ready; 2 or you don't feel the spark
3 the truth 4 why would they push something this important toward you that
can change your life;5 say that you are who you are and you don't want to get
married and if they want you to do it so badly why don't they. hope this helps;
';Dear Family,
You know I've never found a woman that could satisfy my ego as much as my mirror, and as I get older, and the more I look between my legs and still love myself, I've decided that I won't try pretending anymore that I'm looking for anything more than sex.
Since I've had little more than the little between-my-legs to offer in any case, I thought I'd make it official before a list of the women I''ve had relations with gets in contact with you, points at your son/'relly'/'friend' and pees themselves with their pinky finger.
So I've decided to throw away my dictionary and become a 'playa fo life.'
You can find me with a bad haircut, stooped gait and unrealistic view of life anytime soon, unless you care anything for me as a son/'relly'/friend, and slap me into the real world 'rilly kwik.'
';
Dude look in to sociology. You will find a lot of legitimate reasons. Marriage is a scam. And it is advertised everywhere. Trust me look into sociology.
Why get married it is a political statement. It is a contract through the government that says i own this person and they own me. So you can say once you are married ';If you leave me baby I will sue your beep for leaving me';. I would say marriage is in a way like slavery. A human contract. For life.
find some living examples to show them that marriage is not for everyone! maybe you have an uncle or family friend. think of a celebrity they like. tell them you like the single life and don't want to bring anyone in your life you cant commit too, say you want to live your life for yourself and not anyone else. maybe you want a career or traveling or maybe you just like a relaxing life! and not answering to anyone! tell them there is still time to change men in there 60s can marry a young women and have kids! : )good luck
Marriage isn't for all people, you haven't found the right woman and you don't want to end up with the wrong one, you have too much going on with your life, you were probed by aliens and still getting over the experience, you aren't mentally stable enough to be reliable yet, or you just don't believe in marriage. I've heard all used before :]
Best of luck...playa.
I am irresponsible and would make a terrible dad
I am a gay fella and would rather play with the boys
I am a selfish bastard and would make a terrible husband or father
I have my head so far up my *** I have to clean the lint from my navel to see to shave my chin
tell them I am shallow and can't be bothered to settle down and make a contribution to society.
I am only interested in my selfish pleasure and prefer to deceive women that I will commit until they finally figure out that I am a douchbag.
Tell them I have no soul, so just write me off, k?
As a married person, I find the most accurate and good reason for not getting married is this....
Your love is no longer based on appreciation for each other, instead, it's based on expectations from each other, which isn't really love at all.
You can quote me. lol.
You are cleary not the type of person that should get married and thankfully doesn't want to get married.
Tell your family to back off and that marraige is just not your thing. If you find someone you love and who loves you back then by all means get maerried.
Until that happens its whatever.
honestly i think weddings are kinda over rated
sure there nice if u have the money for them
everyone is going to want to come and its going to cost big bucks
i say if u want to spend money on something like that just have a big party and annouce to everyone who your precious googly bear is
lol
I've know a few playas who eventually turn in their playa card. Look at Uncle Luke. Just tell them that you simply don't want to get married. It's not something you plan on doing. If they can't handle that then too bad. It's your life not theirs.
tell your family you dont want to ruin another person life by breaking her heart with your bullshit. thus you choose not to marry and never will. and i hope when you fall in love. that women tells u the same thing so you can kno how it feels.
i dont expect a best answer for this
Tell them you'll settle down when the time is right and the woman is right. Tell them that it bothers you when you keep asking and that they will be the first to know when you do decide to settle down.
You can say that you're happy as a bachelor, and that whenever you feel that you need to settle down with a lady, you will marry her.
Or you can say tell them, that you haven't found the right girl.
Sorry i can't think of any reasons not to get married i been married 3 times myself and i would do it again if i had to. I think this marriage is working out it's been 30 years so far.
ye dawn't need tae tie yerself, laddie. jes tell yer fam yer not interested in marriage at this stage. even better tell em ye like a thumpin' man. that would shut em up good. well, keep playin, laddie
:)):)) well.. u can tell them that you are an illiterate idiot:))):)) that should scare away all the women... and after that you can be the biggest playa' in the world:)))
you are such a dumb @ss :)):))
_|_
';i wanna explore the sea, not the ONE bedroom!'; Okay, i'm just spit balling here. idk!
??????
Plus i'm like really young so...yah. but i would recomend settling down with one girl!
I personally don't believe in marriage because it doesn't change anything. It won't make you happier or make your relationship stronger.
Hope that helps.
Well, Playa
Maybe you should get married--
But tell them you dont want to get married cause it will make you feel tyed down...
well you could just say you have a clinical social disorder that forces you not to be forced into commitment.
http://www.phobias-help.com/commitment_p鈥?/a>
Im not ready to marry. I still want to play the field and see the rest of the fish. Being married will just holdd me back.
Your fam doesn't deserve to control you like some kind of friggin slave. Tell them to back off and if they don't then that means that they suck and have no life .
be like, i need more time, then do something bad so you can break up with her, and start all over again
Why not just tell the truth. Yo I'm a playa fo life back off stop tryin to block my action. Buy a nice female dog let the family moon over the new *****.
Tell them not to hate the playa but to hate the game. Playa for life yo!
you need to find an excuse TO get married! marriage is dumb.
you are who you are and you will get married only if you want to!
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
hope i helped
You could grow up! How do I tell my mommy that I don't wanna get married? She will be mad at me!! Waaa! Give me a break!
over 9000
Its time you tell them your gay, they'll still love you.
I am an irish citizen, but my lithuanian fiance has a green card. When we get married would I qualify?
I have been trying to get a green card via th Diversity lottery no luck so far.I am an irish citizen, but my lithuanian fiance has a green card. When we get married would I qualify?
short answer is no, you would not qualify.
short answer is no, you would not qualify.
I married into a hispanic family and I'm going to plan my nieces Quince?
They are not religious at ALL! My niece wants to skip the church ceremony. But is'nt that kind of the whole purpose? Please if you have any tips!I married into a hispanic family and I'm going to plan my nieces Quince?
You can have a Quince with no service if the family does not actively have a religion. As a compromise, maybe include a moment of prayer at the beginning of the fiesta.I married into a hispanic family and I'm going to plan my nieces Quince?
My niece just had her Sweete 15 and she didn't have a church service . Instead we invited the priest to come to the party and before the party officially started, her crown and shoes were blessed. These symbolize her stepping into womanhood and should be included in the celebration.
I hope I helped!
You can have a Quince with no service if the family does not actively have a religion. As a compromise, maybe include a moment of prayer at the beginning of the fiesta.I married into a hispanic family and I'm going to plan my nieces Quince?
My niece just had her Sweete 15 and she didn't have a church service . Instead we invited the priest to come to the party and before the party officially started, her crown and shoes were blessed. These symbolize her stepping into womanhood and should be included in the celebration.
I hope I helped!
Why on earth would she want to stay married to him?
My partners 'wife' will not grant him divorce. They have been separated for 3 and a half years now, she is living with another man for most of that period. Why would she not grant divorce? Its nothing to do with anything financial, as that has been sorted out.Why on earth would she want to stay married to him?
Because she is a jerk, he can go ahead with the divorce without her consent either after so many years of separation anyway or if he doesn't want to wait he should talk to a lawyer about the other reasons he can divorce her (such as unreasonable behaviour)Why on earth would she want to stay married to him?
First of all, there may be issues she is not telling you or he is not telling you. Secondly, if he really wants a divorce from her but she won't grant it, he can go to his local county or state office and request them to fight the divorce for him. It will cost him of course, but she has little to no chance against the government.
Thirdly, stay out of it completely, if she finds out you are involved even as a friend to him, it can make things very complicated for him in the divorce proceedings.
Maybe because she does not want to give him the ability to marry you.
As long as he is still married, he's not free to marry anyone else. However, one CAN get divorced without either partner granting it. In most states, it only requires a separation of two years.
IF your ';partner'; truly wanted to be divorced from her, he would have involved an attorney and had it taken care of by now
because not granting the divorce is the only way that she can maintain ';power'; over your partner. however, are you sure that you want to wait around for that divorce to happen? i'm not a lawyer, but in most states there are things that your partner could do to get that decree done, if he was really so inclined. after all, this is not the first time that a situation like this has happened.
If you are in the UK you only have another 18 months before your partner can divorce his ex on the grounds of 5 year separation.
Just wait it out, its not worth causing all this trouble, let it lie and then do it without telling her.
Good luck.
It seems like to me that she may be asking the judge to continue the case because they shold be divorced already .I would tell the man next time he goes to court you wanna go with him and they nay upset the wife really bad and she will just get it over with already
She may have a lot to lose financially. Or, she may just be possessive and not want someone else to have him. Or, she may take her marriage vows seriously-sort of.
Sometimes people are just vindictive.
She still really loves him, or is bitter that he may have a new partner and thus punishing him this way. Im sure after this long it can go ahead with or wothout concent it can in the UK I think??
Only she can say and you would be unwise to find out. 5yrs separation is terminal when one side petitions for divorce regardless of the others' view.
He may have something in the decree that she doesnt agree with, it could be that simple.
he can get the divorce without her signature. sounds fishy to me. maybe she knows he has someone else, and even if she doesn't want him, she may not want anyone else to have him.
she is bitter it happens i am afraid. He will get one automatically after 5 years of separation
Let her talk to me and your problem will be solved.
Are you sure? He could be stalling.
Maybe she still loves him. do they have any kids together?
Because she is a jerk, he can go ahead with the divorce without her consent either after so many years of separation anyway or if he doesn't want to wait he should talk to a lawyer about the other reasons he can divorce her (such as unreasonable behaviour)Why on earth would she want to stay married to him?
First of all, there may be issues she is not telling you or he is not telling you. Secondly, if he really wants a divorce from her but she won't grant it, he can go to his local county or state office and request them to fight the divorce for him. It will cost him of course, but she has little to no chance against the government.
Thirdly, stay out of it completely, if she finds out you are involved even as a friend to him, it can make things very complicated for him in the divorce proceedings.
Maybe because she does not want to give him the ability to marry you.
As long as he is still married, he's not free to marry anyone else. However, one CAN get divorced without either partner granting it. In most states, it only requires a separation of two years.
IF your ';partner'; truly wanted to be divorced from her, he would have involved an attorney and had it taken care of by now
because not granting the divorce is the only way that she can maintain ';power'; over your partner. however, are you sure that you want to wait around for that divorce to happen? i'm not a lawyer, but in most states there are things that your partner could do to get that decree done, if he was really so inclined. after all, this is not the first time that a situation like this has happened.
If you are in the UK you only have another 18 months before your partner can divorce his ex on the grounds of 5 year separation.
Just wait it out, its not worth causing all this trouble, let it lie and then do it without telling her.
Good luck.
It seems like to me that she may be asking the judge to continue the case because they shold be divorced already .I would tell the man next time he goes to court you wanna go with him and they nay upset the wife really bad and she will just get it over with already
She may have a lot to lose financially. Or, she may just be possessive and not want someone else to have him. Or, she may take her marriage vows seriously-sort of.
Sometimes people are just vindictive.
She still really loves him, or is bitter that he may have a new partner and thus punishing him this way. Im sure after this long it can go ahead with or wothout concent it can in the UK I think??
Only she can say and you would be unwise to find out. 5yrs separation is terminal when one side petitions for divorce regardless of the others' view.
He may have something in the decree that she doesnt agree with, it could be that simple.
he can get the divorce without her signature. sounds fishy to me. maybe she knows he has someone else, and even if she doesn't want him, she may not want anyone else to have him.
she is bitter it happens i am afraid. He will get one automatically after 5 years of separation
Let her talk to me and your problem will be solved.
Are you sure? He could be stalling.
Maybe she still loves him. do they have any kids together?
Why on earth would she want to stay married to him?
My partners 'wife' will not grant him divorce. They have been separated for 3 and a half years now, she is living with another man for most of that period. Why would she not grant divorce? Its nothing to do with anything financial, as that has been sorted out.Why on earth would she want to stay married to him?
Because she is a jerk, he can go ahead with the divorce without her consent either after so many years of separation anyway or if he doesn't want to wait he should talk to a lawyer about the other reasons he can divorce her (such as unreasonable behaviour)Why on earth would she want to stay married to him?
First of all, there may be issues she is not telling you or he is not telling you. Secondly, if he really wants a divorce from her but she won't grant it, he can go to his local county or state office and request them to fight the divorce for him. It will cost him of course, but she has little to no chance against the government.
Thirdly, stay out of it completely, if she finds out you are involved even as a friend to him, it can make things very complicated for him in the divorce proceedings.
Maybe because she does not want to give him the ability to marry you.
As long as he is still married, he's not free to marry anyone else. However, one CAN get divorced without either partner granting it. In most states, it only requires a separation of two years.
IF your ';partner'; truly wanted to be divorced from her, he would have involved an attorney and had it taken care of by now
because not granting the divorce is the only way that she can maintain ';power'; over your partner. however, are you sure that you want to wait around for that divorce to happen? i'm not a lawyer, but in most states there are things that your partner could do to get that decree done, if he was really so inclined. after all, this is not the first time that a situation like this has happened.
If you are in the UK you only have another 18 months before your partner can divorce his ex on the grounds of 5 year separation.
Just wait it out, its not worth causing all this trouble, let it lie and then do it without telling her.
Good luck.
It seems like to me that she may be asking the judge to continue the case because they shold be divorced already .I would tell the man next time he goes to court you wanna go with him and they nay upset the wife really bad and she will just get it over with already
She may have a lot to lose financially. Or, she may just be possessive and not want someone else to have him. Or, she may take her marriage vows seriously-sort of.
Sometimes people are just vindictive.
She still really loves him, or is bitter that he may have a new partner and thus punishing him this way. Im sure after this long it can go ahead with or wothout concent it can in the UK I think??
Only she can say and you would be unwise to find out. 5yrs separation is terminal when one side petitions for divorce regardless of the others' view.
He may have something in the decree that she doesnt agree with, it could be that simple.
he can get the divorce without her signature. sounds fishy to me. maybe she knows he has someone else, and even if she doesn't want him, she may not want anyone else to have him.
she is bitter it happens i am afraid. He will get one automatically after 5 years of separation
Let her talk to me and your problem will be solved.
Are you sure? He could be stalling.
Maybe she still loves him. do they have any kids together?
Because she is a jerk, he can go ahead with the divorce without her consent either after so many years of separation anyway or if he doesn't want to wait he should talk to a lawyer about the other reasons he can divorce her (such as unreasonable behaviour)Why on earth would she want to stay married to him?
First of all, there may be issues she is not telling you or he is not telling you. Secondly, if he really wants a divorce from her but she won't grant it, he can go to his local county or state office and request them to fight the divorce for him. It will cost him of course, but she has little to no chance against the government.
Thirdly, stay out of it completely, if she finds out you are involved even as a friend to him, it can make things very complicated for him in the divorce proceedings.
Maybe because she does not want to give him the ability to marry you.
As long as he is still married, he's not free to marry anyone else. However, one CAN get divorced without either partner granting it. In most states, it only requires a separation of two years.
IF your ';partner'; truly wanted to be divorced from her, he would have involved an attorney and had it taken care of by now
because not granting the divorce is the only way that she can maintain ';power'; over your partner. however, are you sure that you want to wait around for that divorce to happen? i'm not a lawyer, but in most states there are things that your partner could do to get that decree done, if he was really so inclined. after all, this is not the first time that a situation like this has happened.
If you are in the UK you only have another 18 months before your partner can divorce his ex on the grounds of 5 year separation.
Just wait it out, its not worth causing all this trouble, let it lie and then do it without telling her.
Good luck.
It seems like to me that she may be asking the judge to continue the case because they shold be divorced already .I would tell the man next time he goes to court you wanna go with him and they nay upset the wife really bad and she will just get it over with already
She may have a lot to lose financially. Or, she may just be possessive and not want someone else to have him. Or, she may take her marriage vows seriously-sort of.
Sometimes people are just vindictive.
She still really loves him, or is bitter that he may have a new partner and thus punishing him this way. Im sure after this long it can go ahead with or wothout concent it can in the UK I think??
Only she can say and you would be unwise to find out. 5yrs separation is terminal when one side petitions for divorce regardless of the others' view.
He may have something in the decree that she doesnt agree with, it could be that simple.
he can get the divorce without her signature. sounds fishy to me. maybe she knows he has someone else, and even if she doesn't want him, she may not want anyone else to have him.
she is bitter it happens i am afraid. He will get one automatically after 5 years of separation
Let her talk to me and your problem will be solved.
Are you sure? He could be stalling.
Maybe she still loves him. do they have any kids together?
Getting married in a catholic church - need to find a prayer?
I need to find a prayer we have to read to our mentor couple. I searched online and did not find much - would anyone know of a good one that is blessing us as an engaged couple?Getting married in a catholic church - need to find a prayer?
Why dont you make your own prayer.... its your heart that God wants not someone elses words.
If you cant think of your own the only other suggestion that I would have is go to the Psalms.Getting married in a catholic church - need to find a prayer?
Please consider the info below. What Jesus himself brings out in Matt is very clear. You may want to share this with your mentor couple and suggest you heed the instruction below. Just pray from your heart.
We can improve the quality of our prayers by putting forth effort not to use the same words and phrases over and over again.
(Matt. 6:7) ';But when praying, do not say the same things over and over again, just as the people of the nations do, for they imagine they will get a hearing for their use of many words.';
Such repetition may cause prayers to lack real feeling and meaning. Memorized words, more likely than not, are prone to come from the head rather than from the heart. Especially should Christians who daily take the lead in family prayer be careful in this regard. Using the same words day after day can cause the minds of those who are listening to wander. Daily meditation on Scriptural thoughts and our cultivating greater appreciation for Jehovah鈥檚 undeserved kindness toward us may help to keep our prayers warm and meaningful.
this isnt a prayer,but i read this small scripture at my cousin's catholic wedding...
http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?sea鈥?/a>
I don't know but when you find one make sure it's a long prayer Catholic weddings and funerals are Longggg.
if you feel like acting out, reach out.
www.teenhelp.org
Why dont you make your own prayer.... its your heart that God wants not someone elses words.
If you cant think of your own the only other suggestion that I would have is go to the Psalms.Getting married in a catholic church - need to find a prayer?
Please consider the info below. What Jesus himself brings out in Matt is very clear. You may want to share this with your mentor couple and suggest you heed the instruction below. Just pray from your heart.
We can improve the quality of our prayers by putting forth effort not to use the same words and phrases over and over again.
(Matt. 6:7) ';But when praying, do not say the same things over and over again, just as the people of the nations do, for they imagine they will get a hearing for their use of many words.';
Such repetition may cause prayers to lack real feeling and meaning. Memorized words, more likely than not, are prone to come from the head rather than from the heart. Especially should Christians who daily take the lead in family prayer be careful in this regard. Using the same words day after day can cause the minds of those who are listening to wander. Daily meditation on Scriptural thoughts and our cultivating greater appreciation for Jehovah鈥檚 undeserved kindness toward us may help to keep our prayers warm and meaningful.
this isnt a prayer,but i read this small scripture at my cousin's catholic wedding...
http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?sea鈥?/a>
I don't know but when you find one make sure it's a long prayer Catholic weddings and funerals are Longggg.
if you feel like acting out, reach out.
www.teenhelp.org
Getting married in 3 months and want to find someone who does good bridal makeup in south devon?
would like to find someone who has been recomended by someone else and that does not cost the earth. also want a trial before the actual day.Getting married in 3 months and want to find someone who does good bridal makeup in south devon?
reflektions is great. you can call them on 07804 217303 to arrange an appointment. they are based in the south west and cover devon. they use quality products and equipment and have really friendly staff that make you feel so welcome. i would definately reccomend them.
hope this helps
xGetting married in 3 months and want to find someone who does good bridal makeup in south devon?
if you have a dept. store call one of your favorite lines and make an appointment. tell them you are getting married and you need to come in for a makeup appointment. than you can always make the 2nd one as well. just make them 3 to four weeks apart. that way the artist will have their schedule so they know who will be doing your makeup and you don't forget how you looked. i also recommend that you take your camera and take pic so you can see how it comes out. good luck : )
are you outside Philadelphia?
email me if you are. I lived there for several yrs.makeup online
reflektions is great. you can call them on 07804 217303 to arrange an appointment. they are based in the south west and cover devon. they use quality products and equipment and have really friendly staff that make you feel so welcome. i would definately reccomend them.
hope this helps
xGetting married in 3 months and want to find someone who does good bridal makeup in south devon?
if you have a dept. store call one of your favorite lines and make an appointment. tell them you are getting married and you need to come in for a makeup appointment. than you can always make the 2nd one as well. just make them 3 to four weeks apart. that way the artist will have their schedule so they know who will be doing your makeup and you don't forget how you looked. i also recommend that you take your camera and take pic so you can see how it comes out. good luck : )
are you outside Philadelphia?
email me if you are. I lived there for several yrs.
I'm an american citizen and my girlfriend is from the uk. How can we get married so i can stay in the uk?
I want to marry her and be able to live in the uk with her. can anyone give me some advice on how i can do this? What would i have to do? couldnt we just get married in the uk and do the paper work later?I'm an american citizen and my girlfriend is from the uk. How can we get married so i can stay in the uk?
It would be unwise to enter the UK without the correct visa, as they might just turn you around and send you back home on the next plane available. Before you travel you should apply for a fianc茅 visa - this will allow you six months to get married - then you can remain in the UK while you apply to change your status for settlement as a spouse. You won't be allowed to work during this time until you get permission. :-)I'm an american citizen and my girlfriend is from the uk. How can we get married so i can stay in the uk?
Do you have skills that are required in the UK ? I doubt it, if you had you would not be asking the question.
Does she have skills that are required in the USA, if she has then she could join you in the US.
It's almost impossible to use marriage as an excuse to enter the UK. We already have more immigrants than we need.
Ian M
Just land in one of our international airports. Ther will be a house, job and a pocket money from our goverment waiting for you. You dont need to marry anyone to stay in the UK, it is a playgroung for the illeagle foreigner
just because you marry a girl from the uk does not give the right to live here and work
those days are long gone
why can you not get married in usa of a and stay there.
you can automatically stay in the uk when you marry her but you will get checked out by immigration people because there are a lot of sham marriages to keep people in the country
You or her should contact a lawyer since you are planning to live over there she should see a lawyer over there about what the laws are about marriage.
im british u need to get a visa like in america they just changed these rules in fact
It would be unwise to enter the UK without the correct visa, as they might just turn you around and send you back home on the next plane available. Before you travel you should apply for a fianc茅 visa - this will allow you six months to get married - then you can remain in the UK while you apply to change your status for settlement as a spouse. You won't be allowed to work during this time until you get permission. :-)I'm an american citizen and my girlfriend is from the uk. How can we get married so i can stay in the uk?
Do you have skills that are required in the UK ? I doubt it, if you had you would not be asking the question.
Does she have skills that are required in the USA, if she has then she could join you in the US.
It's almost impossible to use marriage as an excuse to enter the UK. We already have more immigrants than we need.
Ian M
Just land in one of our international airports. Ther will be a house, job and a pocket money from our goverment waiting for you. You dont need to marry anyone to stay in the UK, it is a playgroung for the illeagle foreigner
just because you marry a girl from the uk does not give the right to live here and work
those days are long gone
why can you not get married in usa of a and stay there.
you can automatically stay in the uk when you marry her but you will get checked out by immigration people because there are a lot of sham marriages to keep people in the country
You or her should contact a lawyer since you are planning to live over there she should see a lawyer over there about what the laws are about marriage.
im british u need to get a visa like in america they just changed these rules in fact
How much money should a 26 year old married couple with 1 child have?
We're a military family, on just 1 income. We live paycheck by paycheck and have no savings. Is there an average amount of money we should have for our age group? I know that sounds crazy, but I read somewhere that there's a way to figure out what you should have in savings. FYI- - we make about 4,000/month.How much money should a 26 year old married couple with 1 child have?
Read Dave Ramsey's ';Total Money Makeover.'; He will outline how to get out of debt and begin a savings for retirement in ways that are so easy to live by. Its not based on age at all, but you cant accomplish these goals in just a few months to a couple of years depending on how willing you are.How much money should a 26 year old married couple with 1 child have?
If you make about $4,000 a month and are still living payday to payday, then you should take a look at what you spend your money on. There isnt a rule or law that says a 26yr old couple with one child should have a certain amount in savings. You can start putting a certain amt. away each payday and before you know it you will have a great savings acct. accumulated. If you can manage saving $1,000 a month, by one years time you'd have $12,000. In ten yrs that would grow to $120,000. And if you stick it in an interest drawing acct. it would be even more than that. Try cutting back on how you spend. My husband and I are both 29 with 2 kids, 4 dogs, an acre of land, we own our home, and have 3 vehicles. We live comfortable and only make about $2400-$2600 a month. We also live in AZ. I guess if you live in CA or NY I could see why $4,000 a month wouldnt be enough..lol..
Wow there's so much to say to you, but I'll try to keep it short.
Honestly, $4,000/month is great income for your household. Take a serious look at your expenses and re-budget what you're spending your money on. $48,000/year is a lot of money that's being withered away.
There isn't a definite formula out there that determines how much someone should have in their savings (at least none that I know of). But don't base your savings off of formulas and statistics, because if you're living to paycheck to paycheck, then that gives me the impression that you have limited savings and you would be disappointed with whatever formulas results you receive. Focus on your own individual family, not the basis of something else.
Lastly, I see a married couple with one income. Most times in this situation, one parent stays home with the child, completely understandable, but there's nothing that say that the other parent doesn't have to contribute.
Here's my advice. While one parent is bringing home the $4,000/month. Let the other parent handle the financials during the free time. Do the budgeting, sacrificing, but always, always, ALWAYS communicate with your spouse on financing and proposals. Also, I want you to visit:http://www.helpmycashgrow.com/2008/05/13/avoiding-financial-setbacks-5-create-a-second-income/
I selected this blog post because while one parent is at work, the other can also bring in a little bit of green with these 20 ways to produce an small income with little time and effort. Hope this helps.
I do not know your expenses but a great way to see where you are is to track your spending. Record your exery purchase and at the end of the month analyze where you can cut out purchases.
Read Dave Ramsey's ';Total Money Makeover.'; He will outline how to get out of debt and begin a savings for retirement in ways that are so easy to live by. Its not based on age at all, but you cant accomplish these goals in just a few months to a couple of years depending on how willing you are.How much money should a 26 year old married couple with 1 child have?
If you make about $4,000 a month and are still living payday to payday, then you should take a look at what you spend your money on. There isnt a rule or law that says a 26yr old couple with one child should have a certain amount in savings. You can start putting a certain amt. away each payday and before you know it you will have a great savings acct. accumulated. If you can manage saving $1,000 a month, by one years time you'd have $12,000. In ten yrs that would grow to $120,000. And if you stick it in an interest drawing acct. it would be even more than that. Try cutting back on how you spend. My husband and I are both 29 with 2 kids, 4 dogs, an acre of land, we own our home, and have 3 vehicles. We live comfortable and only make about $2400-$2600 a month. We also live in AZ. I guess if you live in CA or NY I could see why $4,000 a month wouldnt be enough..lol..
Wow there's so much to say to you, but I'll try to keep it short.
Honestly, $4,000/month is great income for your household. Take a serious look at your expenses and re-budget what you're spending your money on. $48,000/year is a lot of money that's being withered away.
There isn't a definite formula out there that determines how much someone should have in their savings (at least none that I know of). But don't base your savings off of formulas and statistics, because if you're living to paycheck to paycheck, then that gives me the impression that you have limited savings and you would be disappointed with whatever formulas results you receive. Focus on your own individual family, not the basis of something else.
Lastly, I see a married couple with one income. Most times in this situation, one parent stays home with the child, completely understandable, but there's nothing that say that the other parent doesn't have to contribute.
Here's my advice. While one parent is bringing home the $4,000/month. Let the other parent handle the financials during the free time. Do the budgeting, sacrificing, but always, always, ALWAYS communicate with your spouse on financing and proposals. Also, I want you to visit:http://www.helpmycashgrow.com/2008/05/13/avoiding-financial-setbacks-5-create-a-second-income/
I selected this blog post because while one parent is at work, the other can also bring in a little bit of green with these 20 ways to produce an small income with little time and effort. Hope this helps.
I do not know your expenses but a great way to see where you are is to track your spending. Record your exery purchase and at the end of the month analyze where you can cut out purchases.
My fiance is a corpsman. Could we live apart while I finish school after we get married?
I won't graduate college for a few years. My fiance is training to be a Naval Corpsman for the Marines and we want to get married as soon as possible without me having to quit school. We'd have to live apart for a little while but if its possible, I need to know how BAH works for couples who live apart and if it (E3 salary) would cover it. Anyone have any experience in this area?My fiance is a corpsman. Could we live apart while I finish school after we get married?
My fiance is in the Navy. The only way that the government will pay for both of you is if there is a legit reason for you not to be living together. I am not sure if schooling is one. If he lives in the baracks however, you can take his BAH. As for E3, go to military.com and you can look up how much his BAH is. Finally, call the Fleet and Family Support Center near you. They have premarriage class that teaches you about the benefits available to you. They can answer these questions for you. Best of Luck to you and him. Semper FiMy fiance is a corpsman. Could we live apart while I finish school after we get married?
If I'm not mistaken, you get paid according to where the spouse lives.
My fiance is in the Navy. The only way that the government will pay for both of you is if there is a legit reason for you not to be living together. I am not sure if schooling is one. If he lives in the baracks however, you can take his BAH. As for E3, go to military.com and you can look up how much his BAH is. Finally, call the Fleet and Family Support Center near you. They have premarriage class that teaches you about the benefits available to you. They can answer these questions for you. Best of Luck to you and him. Semper FiMy fiance is a corpsman. Could we live apart while I finish school after we get married?
If I'm not mistaken, you get paid according to where the spouse lives.
Who gets legal rights to a house owned by two parents splitting up that are not married,both names on the deed?
I live in Illinois %26amp; my boys father %26amp; I own a home, paid off, %26amp; I want to know who has legal rights to the house when we split up. Both of our names are on the deed.Who gets legal rights to a house owned by two parents splitting up that are not married,both names on the deed?
Since you are both co owners, you cannot be forced out. I suggest not leaving the home. If you can't come to a buyout agreement, you must deal with it in court.Who gets legal rights to a house owned by two parents splitting up that are not married,both names on the deed?
I happen to work for an underwriting company, so here is your answer , depending on which state you live in. one of you will have to deed the other one off and buyout the other owner. Let me know if you have further questions on this, if i knew what state you were in i could help you further, what lending company did you have your loan thru also?
simple solution...
sell it and split the profits 50/50.
done.
Since you are both co owners, you cannot be forced out. I suggest not leaving the home. If you can't come to a buyout agreement, you must deal with it in court.Who gets legal rights to a house owned by two parents splitting up that are not married,both names on the deed?
I happen to work for an underwriting company, so here is your answer , depending on which state you live in. one of you will have to deed the other one off and buyout the other owner. Let me know if you have further questions on this, if i knew what state you were in i could help you further, what lending company did you have your loan thru also?
simple solution...
sell it and split the profits 50/50.
done.
Is there anyone who is either dating or married to a police officer?
I have some questions and need some advice. I have tried to find support groups online, but they are either out dated, cost money to join, or are for certain regions like, LAPD.
Either email me or leave me a message and let me know if it is cool to email you.Is there anyone who is either dating or married to a police officer?
My hubby is a Sgt.police officer and at the same time a marine.You could email me anytime.We could share things or ideas together.You are not alone!BE BLESS!!!Is there anyone who is either dating or married to a police officer?
I am. My husband was actually Marine and then went right into the NYPD. Feel free to e-mail me when you want.
Either email me or leave me a message and let me know if it is cool to email you.Is there anyone who is either dating or married to a police officer?
My hubby is a Sgt.police officer and at the same time a marine.You could email me anytime.We could share things or ideas together.You are not alone!BE BLESS!!!Is there anyone who is either dating or married to a police officer?
I am. My husband was actually Marine and then went right into the NYPD. Feel free to e-mail me when you want.
Who gives a crap whether gay people get married?
I certainly don't, it's not my business and it shouldn't be anybody elses.Who gives a crap whether gay people get married?
I imagine that gay people care a lot. But as straight people, it's not our concern if they do, but it is very much our concern if they are denied the right. Then we must fight with them.Who gives a crap whether gay people get married?
I feel like it's something that doesn't affect my life at all. I live in California and gays have already married...the sky has not fallen down yet. What are they going to do with those marriages anyways?
It's mainly propelled by the religious though---apparently, the Mormon Church has had a great deal of influence on Proposition 8.
Prop 8 (banning gay marriage in California) passed by a slight margin (just over 50%)---evidently, it's because the voter demographics changed---ie. more blacks voted in this election. Blacks tend to vote democratic, but they also tend to be socially conservative on issues like gay marriage due to the influence of the black church. Also, many blacks believe that being gay is a choice, while their skin color is not.
I'm not being racist or anti-religious with the above information. They are just statistics.
I don't get why people get so worked up about this---it's really debating semantics (the definition of 'marriage'). And it's untrue that churches will have to do marriage ceremonies for all gays (they can choose not to). Public schools never teach about regular marriage, so the claim that children will be indoctrinated with homosexuality is FALSE.
Everyone who voted, either way, on any gay marriage proposition. If they didn't give a crap, they wouldn't have voted on it at all.
I personally don't think that the state (the secular government) should recognize marriage (a religious institution) in any capacity. The thing is, that's probably never going to get on a ballot. If it does, I'll vote on marriage. If not, you kids have fun.
You obviously do care, and think it is your business, or you wouldn't have even asked this ';question';.
Gay people are evil. They broke a woman's cross and threw it down to shatter into pieces. Here in seattle they had gay people riding bikes and picking up kids, playing with them with their balls hangin out. Then they try to impose their sexual orientation on everyone like it's so fUk1n important, who cares? I give a crap because it's human indecensy. It's pervertedness. It's sick. It should be kept in the closet at all times. It's a disease.
The ';Yes on 8'; campaign was total FRAUD!
they used images of kids, and told CALIFORNIA that if this law didn't pass, YOUR CHILDREN would be indoctrinated into the GAY LifeStyle by minions of the PUBLIC SCHOOLS and that PARENTS would have no say at all in the matter. This was a TOTAL FRAUD advertising campaign!
If presented the FACTS of the issue straight out, I believe the Voting public would have given approval to GAY MARRIAGE.
I do because i support the right of a child to have parents of opposite sexes. A child should not have to be raised in a gay family. They will end up either really masculine or really feminine, which will give them hard times in life. They will be picked on, not have good social skills because they would only know how to interact with one gender, probably think of suicide because of being picked on and low self esteem, and of course more school shootings.
Since the beginning of time Marriage has been defined as between a man and a woman. I think it is ridiculous that my right to not have the definition of marriage be changed by some Judge who is legislating from the bench. They can't get married because that is not the definition of marriage.
People who don't have sex lives are jealous of those who do, thus wanting to be up in their business and tell other who and what is considered a relationship; sexual or otherwise.
I think everyone should be able to marry anyone else. Last I checked, we were all human.
I agree 100%! There are more important concerns in the country that should definitely take priority over restricting gays right to marriage.
Boo,
Get a life I served my country too. Look around you plenty of Gays also served, and deserve the right to be with whomever they choose. Don't use our sacred military as a means to bigotry.
I don't care, and I really honestly want people to quit debating it and discussing it! I think it's a HUGE waste of time! Our country has bigger things that need addressing. Whether or not a gay couple gets married PALES IN COMPARISON to our growing economic struggles!
GET REAL!
I don't care if straight people get married either. Why shouldn't the gays have as much right to be miserable as the rest of us?
Married 40 years and Adam and Steve or Eve and Bev won't have any effect on our marriage if they get married also.
Your spouse has more rights than my spouse, cause my spouse is not the one your religion approves of for me to devote my life and love to? What?
Totally agree. All this is are religious nuts wanting to burn gay people, figuratively and actually.
I do just like when a brother and sister get ';married'; or a man that has 10 wives get ';married'; while we are at it Man boy love needs equal rights to lol gays are wrong!
The majority of the Black citizens in California seemed to disagree with you.
I must say I agree with them.
Okeeeyy....since you don't give a ';crap'; about it, then why even start a discussion about it? Makes no sense.
No problem if they call it a union or life mates or what ever.Married is a man %26amp; women. Other than that they should have the same rights
More than 50% of California voters, apparently.
I agree. I've known a few well. They aren't hurting anyone.
Its more money Obombus can tax.. Hence the marriage tax penalty!
IMPEACH IN 09
I don't give a crap. I'm one of the 42% in California who voted NO.
Gays should be allowed
this has more to do with equal rights than getting married...
yeah who cares. if guys like other guys then so what
Don't tell me what should and should not be my business. I have a real problem with gays using the ';marriage term';. Those are my beliefs and I have every right to have them. I wore the uniform to ensure people have the freedom to have their own beliefs, so I would appreciate you not making a mockery out of the millions that have served to ensure you get your own opinion. But in the future keep them to yourself.
they have to make sure that everyone knows for some reason...disgusting...and who cares that california voted for it, that place is such a jokemakeup online
I imagine that gay people care a lot. But as straight people, it's not our concern if they do, but it is very much our concern if they are denied the right. Then we must fight with them.Who gives a crap whether gay people get married?
I feel like it's something that doesn't affect my life at all. I live in California and gays have already married...the sky has not fallen down yet. What are they going to do with those marriages anyways?
It's mainly propelled by the religious though---apparently, the Mormon Church has had a great deal of influence on Proposition 8.
Prop 8 (banning gay marriage in California) passed by a slight margin (just over 50%)---evidently, it's because the voter demographics changed---ie. more blacks voted in this election. Blacks tend to vote democratic, but they also tend to be socially conservative on issues like gay marriage due to the influence of the black church. Also, many blacks believe that being gay is a choice, while their skin color is not.
I'm not being racist or anti-religious with the above information. They are just statistics.
I don't get why people get so worked up about this---it's really debating semantics (the definition of 'marriage'). And it's untrue that churches will have to do marriage ceremonies for all gays (they can choose not to). Public schools never teach about regular marriage, so the claim that children will be indoctrinated with homosexuality is FALSE.
Everyone who voted, either way, on any gay marriage proposition. If they didn't give a crap, they wouldn't have voted on it at all.
I personally don't think that the state (the secular government) should recognize marriage (a religious institution) in any capacity. The thing is, that's probably never going to get on a ballot. If it does, I'll vote on marriage. If not, you kids have fun.
You obviously do care, and think it is your business, or you wouldn't have even asked this ';question';.
Gay people are evil. They broke a woman's cross and threw it down to shatter into pieces. Here in seattle they had gay people riding bikes and picking up kids, playing with them with their balls hangin out. Then they try to impose their sexual orientation on everyone like it's so fUk1n important, who cares? I give a crap because it's human indecensy. It's pervertedness. It's sick. It should be kept in the closet at all times. It's a disease.
The ';Yes on 8'; campaign was total FRAUD!
they used images of kids, and told CALIFORNIA that if this law didn't pass, YOUR CHILDREN would be indoctrinated into the GAY LifeStyle by minions of the PUBLIC SCHOOLS and that PARENTS would have no say at all in the matter. This was a TOTAL FRAUD advertising campaign!
If presented the FACTS of the issue straight out, I believe the Voting public would have given approval to GAY MARRIAGE.
I do because i support the right of a child to have parents of opposite sexes. A child should not have to be raised in a gay family. They will end up either really masculine or really feminine, which will give them hard times in life. They will be picked on, not have good social skills because they would only know how to interact with one gender, probably think of suicide because of being picked on and low self esteem, and of course more school shootings.
Since the beginning of time Marriage has been defined as between a man and a woman. I think it is ridiculous that my right to not have the definition of marriage be changed by some Judge who is legislating from the bench. They can't get married because that is not the definition of marriage.
People who don't have sex lives are jealous of those who do, thus wanting to be up in their business and tell other who and what is considered a relationship; sexual or otherwise.
I think everyone should be able to marry anyone else. Last I checked, we were all human.
I agree 100%! There are more important concerns in the country that should definitely take priority over restricting gays right to marriage.
Boo,
Get a life I served my country too. Look around you plenty of Gays also served, and deserve the right to be with whomever they choose. Don't use our sacred military as a means to bigotry.
I don't care, and I really honestly want people to quit debating it and discussing it! I think it's a HUGE waste of time! Our country has bigger things that need addressing. Whether or not a gay couple gets married PALES IN COMPARISON to our growing economic struggles!
GET REAL!
I don't care if straight people get married either. Why shouldn't the gays have as much right to be miserable as the rest of us?
Married 40 years and Adam and Steve or Eve and Bev won't have any effect on our marriage if they get married also.
Your spouse has more rights than my spouse, cause my spouse is not the one your religion approves of for me to devote my life and love to? What?
Totally agree. All this is are religious nuts wanting to burn gay people, figuratively and actually.
I do just like when a brother and sister get ';married'; or a man that has 10 wives get ';married'; while we are at it Man boy love needs equal rights to lol gays are wrong!
The majority of the Black citizens in California seemed to disagree with you.
I must say I agree with them.
Okeeeyy....since you don't give a ';crap'; about it, then why even start a discussion about it? Makes no sense.
No problem if they call it a union or life mates or what ever.Married is a man %26amp; women. Other than that they should have the same rights
More than 50% of California voters, apparently.
I agree. I've known a few well. They aren't hurting anyone.
Its more money Obombus can tax.. Hence the marriage tax penalty!
IMPEACH IN 09
I don't give a crap. I'm one of the 42% in California who voted NO.
Gays should be allowed
this has more to do with equal rights than getting married...
yeah who cares. if guys like other guys then so what
Don't tell me what should and should not be my business. I have a real problem with gays using the ';marriage term';. Those are my beliefs and I have every right to have them. I wore the uniform to ensure people have the freedom to have their own beliefs, so I would appreciate you not making a mockery out of the millions that have served to ensure you get your own opinion. But in the future keep them to yourself.
they have to make sure that everyone knows for some reason...disgusting...and who cares that california voted for it, that place is such a joke
How do I tell my parents, Im getting married if they never met him yet?
I live with my parents for one thing, and they don't know that I been dating someone for the past 2 years. Now my boyfriend ask me to marry me.
My parents, don't even know I have someone, and they don't know that im getting married.
How do I tell my parents this???How do I tell my parents, Im getting married if they never met him yet?
invite them over for dinnerHow do I tell my parents, Im getting married if they never met him yet?
Why are you getting married if you had to hide him? I could understand not meeting them if you weren't living with them and they were far away, but I can't understand how you could hide something like that for two years. You need to do a lot of growing up before you get married. Your parents are going to be hurt and probably not welcome him with open arms. You should have been honest from the beginning.
mmm maybe you should introduce your boyfriend to the them first %26amp; then tell them you're getting married ... like in a couple months
wow you have really made it hard for yourself. your just going have to sit them down and tell them
WOW 2 years of dating and they haven't met him yet? Why not? Something sounds wrong here. You haven't introduced him to your parents for a reason and you know why.
If I were you I'd sit down with my parents and tell them what is going on in my life and LISTEN to what they have to say. What is wrong here? Is it your parents or is it the boyfriend who is wrong in this relationship?
I think you have some answering to do before you go any further with this relationship. You need to sit down with parents and boyfriend and get this straightened out before you say ';I do';.
It is important to straighten this out now because marriage should be for ever and you would certainly want your parents a part of your life wouldn't you? What about any kids? Your parents would want to know your kids and the kids their grandparents. Don't let this get between you and your parents. TALK to them - NOW
My parents, don't even know I have someone, and they don't know that im getting married.
How do I tell my parents this???How do I tell my parents, Im getting married if they never met him yet?
invite them over for dinnerHow do I tell my parents, Im getting married if they never met him yet?
Why are you getting married if you had to hide him? I could understand not meeting them if you weren't living with them and they were far away, but I can't understand how you could hide something like that for two years. You need to do a lot of growing up before you get married. Your parents are going to be hurt and probably not welcome him with open arms. You should have been honest from the beginning.
mmm maybe you should introduce your boyfriend to the them first %26amp; then tell them you're getting married ... like in a couple months
wow you have really made it hard for yourself. your just going have to sit them down and tell them
WOW 2 years of dating and they haven't met him yet? Why not? Something sounds wrong here. You haven't introduced him to your parents for a reason and you know why.
If I were you I'd sit down with my parents and tell them what is going on in my life and LISTEN to what they have to say. What is wrong here? Is it your parents or is it the boyfriend who is wrong in this relationship?
I think you have some answering to do before you go any further with this relationship. You need to sit down with parents and boyfriend and get this straightened out before you say ';I do';.
It is important to straighten this out now because marriage should be for ever and you would certainly want your parents a part of your life wouldn't you? What about any kids? Your parents would want to know your kids and the kids their grandparents. Don't let this get between you and your parents. TALK to them - NOW
What would your reaction be if a family member called you up and said ';oh we got married yesterday.';?
She would ofcourse be referring to long term partner who you knew. She would be telling you that the two of them went off by themselves and did it in secret. I can appreciate that some family members would be angry, but please note that some families bring it upon themselves not to be invited. What would your reaction be if a family member called you up and said ';oh we got married yesterday.';?
My response would be:
';That's wonderful! I am so happy for you both.';
The two people involved are adults. They do not need a family member's permission to wed. Why should the family members be angry? That sounds ridiculous to me.
The mothers may be a bit hurt . . . cos the mothers may have wanted to be present. But other than that? I don't think it is a family member's place to express anything but happiness.
Family members can be relieved . . . cos they don't have to buy any wedding presents . . . unless they want to do so!
And even mothers may be a bit relieved . . . cos the expense and the stress of a big wedding has been avoided.
As long as the couple are adults and they are happy, what's the big deal? It is their decision, and none of our business. Yes, even if we are related to them . . . it is their decision and none of our business.What would your reaction be if a family member called you up and said ';oh we got married yesterday.';?
I think it totally depends. While my first response would be to say it wouldn't matter, that the two are both adults, that's not always the case.
A good friend of mine had her mother do this to her. Her mother was living with a paroled drug addict who had lost custody of his own children. The mother had been married about four times before, always to men who needed saving. My friend and her siblings did not approve of the relationship, but out of respect for their mother tried to be supportive. Still, the mother ran off and got married without telling any of them; she told one child that very day, afterward, by cell phone even though they were in the same house.
My friend and her siblings were very hurt and insulted, and I think, rightly so. In this case, the elopement was a cowardly and selfish thing to do. Sure, the mother had the right to do it. But having the right to do something does not mean it is the right thing to do.
The mother and the new husband are now divorcing, four months later.
It depends on the family member %26amp; how close the relationship is.
No matter who it was, I would be happy for the couple that they were married, but if it was someone very close to me (like my sister--she's my best friend, and will be my maid of honor), I'd feel extremely hurt that she didn't tell me or want me there to share in the best day of her life. My parents would feel hurt too, since they raised her and they've always been there to support her.. I think it's disrespectful toward the closest family members to not have them there after they've supported the person through his/her entire life. I guess I'm really family-oriented, and I see a marriage as a union of two people as well as a union of their two families.
If it was a cousin or other family member I rarely see, however, I wouldn't feel as upset or hurt, as long as I wasn't the only cousin excluded.
I learned that my brother was married over a year after he got married, while he was in the middle of his divorce. My parents learned of it only a couple months before I did. I was furious with all of them, though I wasn't entirely surprised that my brother got married in secret after learning is reasons (convenience because it got him of the Naval base, and good sex). I was more angry with my parents because they never told me when they learned of his marriage.
I would congratulate them and be excited for them. I might feel disappointed that they didn't have a ceremony I could attend, but I wouldn't dream of telling them that; my selfish reactions don't get to spoil THEIR good news.
My husband's mother and step-dad got married while my husband was out of town on a business trip. The trip had been scheduled for 3 months. They intentionally chose that week to get married, and they made no bones about the fact that they were getting married at the courthouse, by a judge who was a personal friend, and they wanted no one there except their two witnesses. My husband didn't even blink twice. Didn't bother him at all. He and I were engaged at the time, and it bothered me a whole lot more than it bothered him.
I would be happy for them!
My cousin and I were close but grew apart when I moved to college. I always knew she was there for me and we always had catch up days and caught up on everything. I told her my hometown friends would be in my wedding because I was closer to them at the time and she flipped out saying of course i was in her wedding she should be in mine.
She then went to arizona for a guy she met once, got married with only his family there, and didn't even tell us or give us a chance to fly out there. We all had no idea.
So I was pissed about that. But if no one was there and depending on how close I was with them. I would have a reason to be upset. Everyone does it there way.
I think it's just fine,
I might be a little sad I missed such an important day for them and the opportunity for a great party. But clearly they did what they wanted and it was important for them to do it that way.
I'd likely have a big backyard bbq for them just to say ';congrats'; and help take the pressure off of them, as a lot of people will start the ';well you're going to have a reception for us now right?!';
I wish I had balls like that lol.
I'd be hurt, but I'd do my best to congratulate the couple and share in the happiness. How successful I would be at this would, of course depend on my relationship to the family member.
Oh, and I have Asperger's tendencies so I'm not a typical case.
I don't know how I'd react. I guess if I were close to this family member I would probably be a little shocked. I contimplated getting married in secret but decided it would upset too many people so we are having a proper wedding and reception in front of 80 guests.
If all's fair in love, then what is the problem here?
It'd be nice to have the happy couple over for dinner %26amp; you could invite anyone else you'd like too.
I love a party %26gt; just let me know when %26amp; where! Bar b que would be great!
I would feel happy for them.
How and when a couple marries is between them. If they chose to have a private wedding, it would be fine with me.
To each their own. I wouldn't be mad. Yes i would be stunned, but not mad. We had a similar thing happen in our family and people were upset for awhile, but its now in the past and no one cares anymore!
If they went and got married by themselves with no other family I wouldn't be mad.
I would feel content and happy for them and then i would ask them if they would be having a reception to celebrate.
';Congratulations! I'm anxious to see you and hear the story. Sounds romantic!';
I'd be sad for not being invited but would be happy and totally respect their decisions
me too!!
its so freaky! we think so similar!
My response would be:
';That's wonderful! I am so happy for you both.';
The two people involved are adults. They do not need a family member's permission to wed. Why should the family members be angry? That sounds ridiculous to me.
The mothers may be a bit hurt . . . cos the mothers may have wanted to be present. But other than that? I don't think it is a family member's place to express anything but happiness.
Family members can be relieved . . . cos they don't have to buy any wedding presents . . . unless they want to do so!
And even mothers may be a bit relieved . . . cos the expense and the stress of a big wedding has been avoided.
As long as the couple are adults and they are happy, what's the big deal? It is their decision, and none of our business. Yes, even if we are related to them . . . it is their decision and none of our business.What would your reaction be if a family member called you up and said ';oh we got married yesterday.';?
I think it totally depends. While my first response would be to say it wouldn't matter, that the two are both adults, that's not always the case.
A good friend of mine had her mother do this to her. Her mother was living with a paroled drug addict who had lost custody of his own children. The mother had been married about four times before, always to men who needed saving. My friend and her siblings did not approve of the relationship, but out of respect for their mother tried to be supportive. Still, the mother ran off and got married without telling any of them; she told one child that very day, afterward, by cell phone even though they were in the same house.
My friend and her siblings were very hurt and insulted, and I think, rightly so. In this case, the elopement was a cowardly and selfish thing to do. Sure, the mother had the right to do it. But having the right to do something does not mean it is the right thing to do.
The mother and the new husband are now divorcing, four months later.
It depends on the family member %26amp; how close the relationship is.
No matter who it was, I would be happy for the couple that they were married, but if it was someone very close to me (like my sister--she's my best friend, and will be my maid of honor), I'd feel extremely hurt that she didn't tell me or want me there to share in the best day of her life. My parents would feel hurt too, since they raised her and they've always been there to support her.. I think it's disrespectful toward the closest family members to not have them there after they've supported the person through his/her entire life. I guess I'm really family-oriented, and I see a marriage as a union of two people as well as a union of their two families.
If it was a cousin or other family member I rarely see, however, I wouldn't feel as upset or hurt, as long as I wasn't the only cousin excluded.
I learned that my brother was married over a year after he got married, while he was in the middle of his divorce. My parents learned of it only a couple months before I did. I was furious with all of them, though I wasn't entirely surprised that my brother got married in secret after learning is reasons (convenience because it got him of the Naval base, and good sex). I was more angry with my parents because they never told me when they learned of his marriage.
I would congratulate them and be excited for them. I might feel disappointed that they didn't have a ceremony I could attend, but I wouldn't dream of telling them that; my selfish reactions don't get to spoil THEIR good news.
My husband's mother and step-dad got married while my husband was out of town on a business trip. The trip had been scheduled for 3 months. They intentionally chose that week to get married, and they made no bones about the fact that they were getting married at the courthouse, by a judge who was a personal friend, and they wanted no one there except their two witnesses. My husband didn't even blink twice. Didn't bother him at all. He and I were engaged at the time, and it bothered me a whole lot more than it bothered him.
I would be happy for them!
My cousin and I were close but grew apart when I moved to college. I always knew she was there for me and we always had catch up days and caught up on everything. I told her my hometown friends would be in my wedding because I was closer to them at the time and she flipped out saying of course i was in her wedding she should be in mine.
She then went to arizona for a guy she met once, got married with only his family there, and didn't even tell us or give us a chance to fly out there. We all had no idea.
So I was pissed about that. But if no one was there and depending on how close I was with them. I would have a reason to be upset. Everyone does it there way.
I think it's just fine,
I might be a little sad I missed such an important day for them and the opportunity for a great party. But clearly they did what they wanted and it was important for them to do it that way.
I'd likely have a big backyard bbq for them just to say ';congrats'; and help take the pressure off of them, as a lot of people will start the ';well you're going to have a reception for us now right?!';
I wish I had balls like that lol.
I'd be hurt, but I'd do my best to congratulate the couple and share in the happiness. How successful I would be at this would, of course depend on my relationship to the family member.
Oh, and I have Asperger's tendencies so I'm not a typical case.
I don't know how I'd react. I guess if I were close to this family member I would probably be a little shocked. I contimplated getting married in secret but decided it would upset too many people so we are having a proper wedding and reception in front of 80 guests.
If all's fair in love, then what is the problem here?
It'd be nice to have the happy couple over for dinner %26amp; you could invite anyone else you'd like too.
I love a party %26gt; just let me know when %26amp; where! Bar b que would be great!
I would feel happy for them.
How and when a couple marries is between them. If they chose to have a private wedding, it would be fine with me.
To each their own. I wouldn't be mad. Yes i would be stunned, but not mad. We had a similar thing happen in our family and people were upset for awhile, but its now in the past and no one cares anymore!
If they went and got married by themselves with no other family I wouldn't be mad.
I would feel content and happy for them and then i would ask them if they would be having a reception to celebrate.
';Congratulations! I'm anxious to see you and hear the story. Sounds romantic!';
I'd be sad for not being invited but would be happy and totally respect their decisions
me too!!
its so freaky! we think so similar!
I'm married, have no children and am the only one working right now. How Many allowances should i fill out...
I'm married, have no children and am the only one working right now. How Many allowances should i fill out on my state federal and city to receive a bigger paycheck and bigger return? right now i have married and and 1 for federal 1 for state and 1 for city. please help and explain the best method on how to proceed. again i want a bigger check and want money back at the end of the year.
thanks
RyanI'm married, have no children and am the only one working right now. How Many allowances should i fill out...
You have a choice -- a bigger paycheck or a bigger refund. Take your pick, you only get one.
Your tax refund is nothing more than getting change at Wally World. You buy $30 worth of stuff and give the cashier a $50. He hands you back $20. Tax refunds are nothing more than the change for what was withheld, it's just that you have to wait up to 16 months for your change from the IRS.
Since you are married and your spouse doesn't work you can claim 3 allowances on your W-4 and will just about break even at filing time. You might get a tiny refund or have a tiny balance to pay, usually well under $100 either way. If you claim fewer than 3 you will get a smaller paycheck but a somewhat larger refund.
The SMART taxpayer doesn't make large interest free loans to the government! Some folks like to brag about getting a $5,000 refund but fail to realize that they loaned the government $100 EVERY WEEK for upwards of 16 months without interest! IMHO, that's major financial stupidity. As lousy as savings account interest rates are, they'd be better off forgetting the refund and putting that money to work for them instead of letting the government have free use of it for over a year.
I hate getting refunds. I aim for a debt at filing time, just under the safe harbor cutoff of $1,000 where penalties would kick in for underpayment. You're free to do as you please, but I'd much rather hang onto my money as long as legally possible, not lend it to the government for no benefit.
thanks
RyanI'm married, have no children and am the only one working right now. How Many allowances should i fill out...
You have a choice -- a bigger paycheck or a bigger refund. Take your pick, you only get one.
Your tax refund is nothing more than getting change at Wally World. You buy $30 worth of stuff and give the cashier a $50. He hands you back $20. Tax refunds are nothing more than the change for what was withheld, it's just that you have to wait up to 16 months for your change from the IRS.
Since you are married and your spouse doesn't work you can claim 3 allowances on your W-4 and will just about break even at filing time. You might get a tiny refund or have a tiny balance to pay, usually well under $100 either way. If you claim fewer than 3 you will get a smaller paycheck but a somewhat larger refund.
The SMART taxpayer doesn't make large interest free loans to the government! Some folks like to brag about getting a $5,000 refund but fail to realize that they loaned the government $100 EVERY WEEK for upwards of 16 months without interest! IMHO, that's major financial stupidity. As lousy as savings account interest rates are, they'd be better off forgetting the refund and putting that money to work for them instead of letting the government have free use of it for over a year.
I hate getting refunds. I aim for a debt at filing time, just under the safe harbor cutoff of $1,000 where penalties would kick in for underpayment. You're free to do as you please, but I'd much rather hang onto my money as long as legally possible, not lend it to the government for no benefit.
Are you married to someone with multiple personalities?
I'm watching United States of Tara and I know it's a fictional show but I'm sure that having that disease(multiple personalities) can affect your spouse a lot. This guy is amazing he respects his wife's wishes by not sleeping with her 'alters'.
Would you do the same? Share what you want.Are you married to someone with multiple personalities?
Hell no,I ain't gonna put up with that mess.................
Would you do the same? Share what you want.Are you married to someone with multiple personalities?
Hell no,I ain't gonna put up with that mess.................
If a married couple has a child at what age are the parents no longer legally finacially responsible for them?
If the age of legal finacial responsiblity for child of married parents is 18 why would the age be different for non-married parents?If a married couple has a child at what age are the parents no longer legally finacially responsible for them?
You're right. In some states child support goes up to 21 if the child is in school and living with the other parent. But where I live, it is 18.If a married couple has a child at what age are the parents no longer legally finacially responsible for them?
the general answer is 18, but there is the exception of having a later age specifically stated in a divorce decree. My parents are divorced and my mother wanted my brother and I to have our college paid for so she made sure that the final divorce agreement stipulated that she paid 1/3 of our expenses until we graduated college and my father paid 2/3. ( the judge approved this because it is as close as possible to what would have happened if they were not divorced) Without having it specifically stated in a divorce the age is 18 for financial support. It is always 18 as far as legal responsibility if you were to get in trouble.
I see what you are saying and you are right. Some people have in their divorce decree that child support has to be paid until they are out of school and that includes college. It does not seem right. You also have to provide health insurance.
Its not different, you are financially liable for your child until they turn 18yrs, but you are emotionally liable for your child forever.
It's not different for married or non married parents. Until a child is 18 a parent is legally responsible for them in all aspects.
Actually in some states (Massachusetts, I'm looking at you) the child support can last until 24, if the child in question is still in school full time.
because the government system is messed up.Sadly for separated parents its 21 only if the kid is a full time student in college after the age of 18.
its not.
when you are 18 you are an adult.
Until they're 7
18
You're right. In some states child support goes up to 21 if the child is in school and living with the other parent. But where I live, it is 18.If a married couple has a child at what age are the parents no longer legally finacially responsible for them?
the general answer is 18, but there is the exception of having a later age specifically stated in a divorce decree. My parents are divorced and my mother wanted my brother and I to have our college paid for so she made sure that the final divorce agreement stipulated that she paid 1/3 of our expenses until we graduated college and my father paid 2/3. ( the judge approved this because it is as close as possible to what would have happened if they were not divorced) Without having it specifically stated in a divorce the age is 18 for financial support. It is always 18 as far as legal responsibility if you were to get in trouble.
I see what you are saying and you are right. Some people have in their divorce decree that child support has to be paid until they are out of school and that includes college. It does not seem right. You also have to provide health insurance.
Its not different, you are financially liable for your child until they turn 18yrs, but you are emotionally liable for your child forever.
It's not different for married or non married parents. Until a child is 18 a parent is legally responsible for them in all aspects.
Actually in some states (Massachusetts, I'm looking at you) the child support can last until 24, if the child in question is still in school full time.
because the government system is messed up.Sadly for separated parents its 21 only if the kid is a full time student in college after the age of 18.
its not.
when you are 18 you are an adult.
Until they're 7
18
Any other Married women had their hubbys get mad about things they did before they met?
But at the same time he wants Details and asks if I have ever thought of doing it again. Why cant guys Just come out and say what they are thinking?Any other Married women had their hubbys get mad about things they did before they met?
Sounds like it might excite him a little but i do know what you are talking about, men are funny that way him asking me those things reminds me of going with him and buying a car and him asking the sales guy who owned it before and things like that lolAny other Married women had their hubbys get mad about things they did before they met?
Sounds like if a guy is doing that to you that 1) they are a bit voyeurstic and get off on imagining the juicy details of past flings or 2) they are control freaks and are storing information to be used against you later. Usually, people are a bit of both but one or the other may get a bit out of hand.
When we start a relationship we should of course be honest about ourselves, but at the same time, only details that are relevant to who you are today should have to be divulged.
Even then, its your history and you have the right to decide what you'll divulge, just hopefully people have the consideration to make sure that anything that would effect their future partner they would let on to. That kind of goes with STD's that someone may be carrying that could be spread, or children or other obligations that go into the present and future. Or possibly other histories that the significant other should find out from the source before finding out somewhere else.
Information that the other should know because it may have an effect on the present relationship is important and to not tell would be a serious breach of trust.
On the other hand, no one needs to know every detail of past relationships. They are in the past. It certainly is not right to judge someone's quality of character by simply minor deeds in the past.
Someone who would do what you describe sounds like they have some serious trust issues. I'd have hoped that prior to choosing to marry someone we both made peace with eachother's past. Otherwise, how can such a close bond be formed with such mistrust?
My ex did this to me often early in our marriage. Little did I know, as I learned later, he had plenty of reason to fear I wouldn't be trustworthy -- because he was anything but! Oftentimes people also use their own past behavior as a reference point for expectation of someone else's.
My wife was in a street gang when she was in high school. She has scars from knife wounds on her face, arms, hands, side and legs, and from cigarette burns on her boobs, to show for it. I have now told you everything I know about it. We met in college after she had escaped from that life style. After about a year of marriage, I finally asked her about her scars. It is in her past. She doesn't want to talk about it and I don't need to know. She has also never talked about her past relationships, even ';innocent'; things like first boy friend, first school dance, or first kiss. Her answer always was, ';That was all before you.'; And she is right. We have been married 42 yrs.She had a long and distinguished career as a nurse and college professor and was recognized for her accomplishments. I just have loved her and helped her to live in the present so she does not have to relive her past.
Spouses do not need to know your sexual past. The only things that count are your present and your future.
Yes. It definitely doesn't pay for either partner to share details of their past sex life with each other.... it's unnecessary, and the worst thing you can do.
Imagine him telling you that he had once slept with two co-workers in the backseat of his car in his lunch break. Could you get that image out of your head? Could you handle that information without feeling uncomfortable with it???
Since it's too late for you to go back now, you're going to have to find a way to deal with him fixating on it. I would suggest consistently shutting down or ignoring any conversation about it whatsoever. Eventually he will be able to forget and move on.
He has not gotten mad over my past. What scared most, he helped me through. We accepted both of our past experience, as a matter of fact it helped us to be closer faster. The hardest one was when I told him my ex said he would kill anyone I would be with... I had believed him. He told me from the start he would never fear him and protect me as well. Being mad is something we never do with each other, even tonight when I told him I had to give another man my cell phone number... work related but just the same I did not feel right, but he understood. Be happy and smile it leads to good times.
Yes I know what you mean. My husband gets mad because I have been with more guys(3) than he has girls and because I had sex with a guy after I knew him for only 2 days but it was all before we met. I was young and dumb!
I can't change the past but I wish I could!
You need to talk to him about it. You guys are both married, I think its time you talk about your past and explain that it was a while ago and you have changed.
no, but i dont think they can hold it against you if you werent together. its in the past. i also dont think its fair. and i bet he would be upset if you asked about all the women he slept with before you.....
My hubby does not get MAD about things I did before we met. However, he has let it be known there are some things (such as drug use) that he does not really like. However, he fully realizes I cannot change things in the past.
I does happen,but future should be good and clean,how come if u know what he did with soo many girla,you are also going to forgive him.
roxy are you supprised that hes mad? how did he find out anyway? this is what you do
deny,deny deny to the end, hey you where young but thats done
never admit you did it
This is why you should never talk honestly about you past to anyone your dating.
One day it could get serious and they'll use the info to become insecure.
Yes my husband went through that whole jealousy thing about my ex's. Totally dumb, he got over it eventually.
NEVER and I cant stress this enough NEVER bring up your past in your future it will mess up things
no nevermakeup online
Sounds like it might excite him a little but i do know what you are talking about, men are funny that way him asking me those things reminds me of going with him and buying a car and him asking the sales guy who owned it before and things like that lolAny other Married women had their hubbys get mad about things they did before they met?
Sounds like if a guy is doing that to you that 1) they are a bit voyeurstic and get off on imagining the juicy details of past flings or 2) they are control freaks and are storing information to be used against you later. Usually, people are a bit of both but one or the other may get a bit out of hand.
When we start a relationship we should of course be honest about ourselves, but at the same time, only details that are relevant to who you are today should have to be divulged.
Even then, its your history and you have the right to decide what you'll divulge, just hopefully people have the consideration to make sure that anything that would effect their future partner they would let on to. That kind of goes with STD's that someone may be carrying that could be spread, or children or other obligations that go into the present and future. Or possibly other histories that the significant other should find out from the source before finding out somewhere else.
Information that the other should know because it may have an effect on the present relationship is important and to not tell would be a serious breach of trust.
On the other hand, no one needs to know every detail of past relationships. They are in the past. It certainly is not right to judge someone's quality of character by simply minor deeds in the past.
Someone who would do what you describe sounds like they have some serious trust issues. I'd have hoped that prior to choosing to marry someone we both made peace with eachother's past. Otherwise, how can such a close bond be formed with such mistrust?
My ex did this to me often early in our marriage. Little did I know, as I learned later, he had plenty of reason to fear I wouldn't be trustworthy -- because he was anything but! Oftentimes people also use their own past behavior as a reference point for expectation of someone else's.
My wife was in a street gang when she was in high school. She has scars from knife wounds on her face, arms, hands, side and legs, and from cigarette burns on her boobs, to show for it. I have now told you everything I know about it. We met in college after she had escaped from that life style. After about a year of marriage, I finally asked her about her scars. It is in her past. She doesn't want to talk about it and I don't need to know. She has also never talked about her past relationships, even ';innocent'; things like first boy friend, first school dance, or first kiss. Her answer always was, ';That was all before you.'; And she is right. We have been married 42 yrs.She had a long and distinguished career as a nurse and college professor and was recognized for her accomplishments. I just have loved her and helped her to live in the present so she does not have to relive her past.
Spouses do not need to know your sexual past. The only things that count are your present and your future.
Yes. It definitely doesn't pay for either partner to share details of their past sex life with each other.... it's unnecessary, and the worst thing you can do.
Imagine him telling you that he had once slept with two co-workers in the backseat of his car in his lunch break. Could you get that image out of your head? Could you handle that information without feeling uncomfortable with it???
Since it's too late for you to go back now, you're going to have to find a way to deal with him fixating on it. I would suggest consistently shutting down or ignoring any conversation about it whatsoever. Eventually he will be able to forget and move on.
He has not gotten mad over my past. What scared most, he helped me through. We accepted both of our past experience, as a matter of fact it helped us to be closer faster. The hardest one was when I told him my ex said he would kill anyone I would be with... I had believed him. He told me from the start he would never fear him and protect me as well. Being mad is something we never do with each other, even tonight when I told him I had to give another man my cell phone number... work related but just the same I did not feel right, but he understood. Be happy and smile it leads to good times.
Yes I know what you mean. My husband gets mad because I have been with more guys(3) than he has girls and because I had sex with a guy after I knew him for only 2 days but it was all before we met. I was young and dumb!
I can't change the past but I wish I could!
You need to talk to him about it. You guys are both married, I think its time you talk about your past and explain that it was a while ago and you have changed.
no, but i dont think they can hold it against you if you werent together. its in the past. i also dont think its fair. and i bet he would be upset if you asked about all the women he slept with before you.....
My hubby does not get MAD about things I did before we met. However, he has let it be known there are some things (such as drug use) that he does not really like. However, he fully realizes I cannot change things in the past.
I does happen,but future should be good and clean,how come if u know what he did with soo many girla,you are also going to forgive him.
roxy are you supprised that hes mad? how did he find out anyway? this is what you do
deny,deny deny to the end, hey you where young but thats done
never admit you did it
This is why you should never talk honestly about you past to anyone your dating.
One day it could get serious and they'll use the info to become insecure.
Yes my husband went through that whole jealousy thing about my ex's. Totally dumb, he got over it eventually.
NEVER and I cant stress this enough NEVER bring up your past in your future it will mess up things
no never
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