My boyfriend is 30 and doesnt want to get married or have anymore kids?

I have dating this guy for 3 years and living together for almost 2 years. I brought up the question of marriage and kids. He already has a kid from another girl. He told me that he dont want to ever get married or have kids. I told him it was important to me to get married. I was upset by this because i love him. Well the following day he came back and changed his mind to yes. I find it hard for someone to change thier mind over night.My boyfriend is 30 and doesnt want to get married or have anymore kids?
Of course he didn't change his mind overnight. He said what he needed to say to ensure that you wouldn't break up with him. Which he knows is exactly what you need to do. If marriage and kids are definitely part of your plans for your future, you need to find a man who shares your goals in life. Your current boyfriend does not, he has made that very clear, so any time you spend with him is just wasted time that you could be using finding someone who is a better match for you.My boyfriend is 30 and doesnt want to get married or have anymore kids?
Wait it out a bit. If he doesn't want to get married in a few months, then it's clear he doesn't want to.
He did that because he loves you and wants you to be happy. Be thankful and stop B%26amp;TC*ing.
he doesn't want to, he ';changed'; his mind to keep you placated. You won't have a husband and children with this man, make peace with that and either stay knowing it or move on.
Well let me put in my 2 cents because you asked. I think you already know the answer to your question. You want to get married. You want children. You know deep down he does not and he is stringing you along.





You might love some things about him but it sounds like its not enough to cover all you want in a man.





Look inside yourself and ask yourself if this is really the man or is it just something for the time being. People only change if they want to, and my guess is this guy isn't going to change.





Maybe take a leave from him for a short period of time. You will either know he is the one or, you might move on to new waters.
He might have changed his mind to yes only because he saw how much you were hurt. Stranger things have happened! Give him some time.
He could just be saying ';yes'; because he wants to manipulate you to stay with him.


Sounds like you need to take him at his word and move out if you can't get him to the altar.


I suggest you make an appointment with the justice of the peace at the county courthouse for the standard civil ceremony, and leave some baby catalogs on the coffee table. Make it clear that you are dead serious... time to put up or shut up.
You need to respect his feelings in this and he needs to respect yours. You have been together long enough to know if you want to spend the rest of your life together or not. Tell him that this is what you want from your future. If he doesn't, he needs to let you know now or you expect a proposal in 6-12 months. If he doesn't come through, then you have your answer and move out and on with your life.





Also, if he really means he doesn't want more kids, then you need to accept this. He may just be saying this because of issues with the first child, but that needs some serious conversation.
He probably told you he changed his mind to make you happy. If you feel that his sudden change is not something he really wants to do, than it will not work because he will feel resentment towards you. If you cannot except the fact that he does not want to get married or have children, you should move on and find someone who truly want to.
Move on.


He ll just play it up.
his first response was his true feelings on the matter. I blame you, if marriage was your desire you shouldn't have spent the last two years playing house. Leave him and let the next gentleman know from the door that you are only interested in relationships that lead to marriage
I would wait it out a few months and see if something happens, if not then you'll know the truth. He might have said that he changed his mind just to keep you around.